(Closed) Can I be honest?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@panterapeach: I think people in ‘Waiting’ can relate to this πŸ™‚  … with every single engagement there is always that little sting. 

All I can say that when it does happen it will be beautiful and right.

 

for now enjoy the wine πŸ™‚ 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@panterapeach:  Is there room for another in the pitty party?  I could use some good wine too!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@panterapeach: It’s perfectly normal to feel that way. I’m not married yet, but I have had several accidential pregnancies, all ended with miscarriages. I had a friend who also got pregnant around the same time I did, and she wanted to terminate the pregnancy, while I had accepted it and was getting excited for it. I ended up miscarrying at 19 weeks, a week after we found out it was a girl. Our friendship was really strained because she told me even after my miscarriage that she still wasn’t sure if she was keeping it, and hey, its her choice, but it was depressing because she didn’t want the baby that she was carrying and I wanted mine, but mine was taken away. She kept the child (when he was born it was painful because it was on my due date), and has since had two more. Each time I get a little sad and want to throw a pity party. So you are definitely not alone. Just know that it will happen when it’s mean to happen.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@panterapeach: I would also love to join your pity party. I am so done being happy for other people. I want to be happy for me goddamnit!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It sucks to feel bad about not getting PG and feel bad about being jealous of others.  Too much badness!  I’m definitely to the point where I’d be happy for any of the people on here who have been TTC for awhile, but the “oops I’m pregnant, yay!” posts are harder to stomach.  (And please don’t feel bad if that’s you…it’s just the way it is.)

I just played a soccer game so I think tonight is beer rather than wine πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had to start hiding my friends on FB because literally 8 or 9 of them were pregnant or announcing it within a month. We aren’t even allowed to start TTC until next year … maybe longer. πŸ™

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@panterapeach:  Wow… At least I’m not the only one.  You are the only person that has explained exactly how I feel.  I know what you are going through… Stay strong. OUR TIME WILL COME!  And our pregnant bellies will be taking over Weddingbee πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel the same way each time one of my friends has another baby. The little b*tch inside me goes, When will it be my turn!?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

yes! Every time I see someone post something like, “We’re not even engaged/ TTC and we’re pregnant!” I want to be like, “noooo. Don’t do it!” I feel bad πŸ™ 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Can I join in? I’ve been feeling like this for months. I always feel guilty though. I’m so happy for everyone else, dont get me wrong. But i’m sad for me. πŸ™

And everyone that’s been struggling too. It’s really hard. πŸ™

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I so understand. πŸ™ So sorry you are hurting. Darling Husband and I tried a year and a half before we enlisted the help of a Fertility Specialist. It took another 3 months of treatments after that to get a BFP. And to be honest I was THRILLED. Then I found out my cousin (who has a 5 month old) is pregnant too. REALLY?! Why couldn’t it just be my turn? I felt so selfish.

So the feelings of jealousy never TRULY leave whether it’s your turn to be pregnant or not.

Hope the wine and chocolate are helping πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I feel that way everytime someone gives birth to a healthy baby. It’s a sting that no matter how happy I am they don’t know my pain, I can’t stop. I thought it’d get easier now that I’m pregnant, but I won’t know if I get to take this baby home either until I actually give birth to a living, breathing, healthy baby. It’s so hard.

You’re not alone or have anything wrong with you.

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