(Closed) Can I be upset about this? My (female) boss said…. [Halloween Related]

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

mchitt329:  I don’t ever see myself dressing up at work (I’m going into a more conservative type of career), but if I ever did, it would be something extremely conservative no matter how informal the work environment. More likely than not, I would just don a pair of cat ears. 

If you want an example of what I might consider a work appropriate costume, here is one:

Yeah, by extremely conservative I mean exremely conservative. I think a costume that can be construed as sexy, such as the one you’re wearing, has no place in a professional environment. It might look great on you and it’s completely appropriate for after work, but I don’t think it’s appropriate for work, and I think that is what your female boss was getting at, even though she worded it in a blunt and insensitive way.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

mchitt329:  this is why, at most, I wear cat ears and paint my nose and whiskers. Or I’ll wear some fun halloween tshirt since we can wear jeans at work. I’m sorry OP 🙁 but I agree this would not be something I would wear at work, even if I made it way more conservative.

Post # 20
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Busy bee

although you wore office slacks, its still inappropriate for work as the PP have stated. the tight ness of the shirt alone, zipped all the way up or not should probably be saved for when you go out tonight, presuming you are going out, rather than in an office environment. the most ive seen people wear for work are like ears or something, and in the strictest offices, even that is looked at is “really”? I personally would never dress up in costume to go to work, but thats just me. 

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I do feel that saying you look like a stripper is a little blunt and unprofessional. A simple, “that outfit doesn’t meet our dress code standards” would have done just fine and not made you feel nearly as uncomfortable.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

mchitt329:  My main point was that I don’t see this type of costume as work appropriate in any sense. Sexy costumes in general just aren’t appropriate for the workplace. If you had worn a more conservative costume, such as a realistic cop costume, that would be a different story.

The fact that you had to cover the pants with slacks should have clued you in that this costume is inappropriate for work. Even with that alteration, the top looks like it’s quite tight with a zipper that basically goes down to you-know-where (even though it’s zipped up) with over the knee boots? Frankly, if I were your boss, I would think that wearing that type of costume shows bad judgment.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Her saying that you look like a stripper is pretty inappropriate for the workplace. But that costume is what I would consider inappropriate for the workplace as well. It isn’t just a cop costume, it’s a sexy cop costume, normal cops don’t look like that. A regular (non-sexy) cop costume would have been fine, IMO. 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

mchitt329:  Ummm… female police officers dress like this. You were dressed like a stripper.

 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

mchitt329:  If you just wanted to go as a cop, that’s fine. The issue isn’t the fact that you dressed as a cop. It’s an issue because it’s skin tight and meant to be worn to be sexy. You could have gone with a cop jacket (much more loose fitting) and hat, or just a regular blouse with a pin on badge and the hat, etc. I would have avoided anything that is that tight. I think your boss, especially being a woman and used to these kinds of costumes, saw that even though you tried to make it less sexy, that was the original intent of the costume.

I am going to a party with friends this weekend as Leslie Knope (Amy Poehler from Parks and Rec) and wearing a full blown pantsuit. I could have worn it to work but didn’t feel like dressing up. That would be something that’s work appropriate. Keep the “sexy” outfits (or outfits intended to be sexy) at home when it comes to costumes at work.

For the record, your boss’ comment wasn’t the best, but I think in a ruder way than should have been, she was trying to tell you that it was inappropriate.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

The costume I’m wearing this evening is of the “sexy” variety, even though I have added some elements to tone it down a bit (not interested in my ass hanging out all night). 

My plan for work is to wear normal work attire but take all of the old badges from former employees that get left in the break room and wear them all and be an “identity theif” 

I wouldnt ever wear anything tight or revealing in any way to work. I could probably get away with it beause its halloween, but it seems inappropriate to me. Work is for the dumb, clever sorts of “costumes”

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would say I follow the, “tight enough to show you’re a woman, loose enough to show you’re a lady” rule. There is a different between tailored or fitted and skin tight.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee

 

mchitt329:  OK so go the other direction.  Dress primly and properly as a law clerk / librarian.  If I couldn’t find a conservative enough swat outfit to buy – I’d piecemeal one: fatigues (maybe goodwill/borrow/craigslist/ebay); baseball catcher’s chest protector as a bulletproof vest; ski mask; toy gun.  Be a lawsuit.  Lots of ways to do non-sexy.  

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

mchitt329:  Oh, I thought your post implied that the over the knee boots aren’t as high on you as in the model’s photo.

As to your question, there are form-fitting tops that are not spandex-bodysuit type of tight. There is definitely a difference between form-fitting and very tight. I think form-fitted, work appropriate clothes will look tailored, but not tight.

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