(Closed) Can I be upset about this? My (female) boss said…. [Halloween Related]

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 32
2509 posts
Sugar bee

mchitt329:  To be honest, what she said may have been inappropriate, but I don’t think she meant it looked like a stripper in the sense that you were showing too much skin or something. I think it looks “stripperish” because it’s clearly not an official uniform [duh] and it’s on theme with stripper costumes.

They typically do the obviously-not-a-real-uniform cop, nurse, cowgirl…and I think that’s what she meant.

No, I wouldn’t be offended.

Post # 33
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind

mchitt329:  Not a great comment, but I must say this is the costume my BOSS wore a couple of years ago, also in a law office.

Post # 34
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I definitely wouldn’t have worn that to work. 

Post # 35
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

why are you in costume at all? 

Post # 36
834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm


mchitt329:  That comment may have been off but she’s right

Post # 37
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re working in a law office? What in the world posessed you to wear such an inappropriate costume?

Post # 38
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

mchitt329:  it might have been out of line for her to say it (joking or not, it obviously offended you) but when the title of the costume is “stop traffic sexy cop costume” i think it’s going to retain some of it’s sexy stripper cop qualities whether you wear it with thigh high boots or not.


ETA: i think it’s totally fine to dress up for work if it’s something your office does; mine does. but it’s more like watered down costumes. stuff that couldn’t be misinterpreted to be anything else. today i’m dressed as miss frizzle. i have a long sleeved dress on with star/planet stickers all over it and my hair in a bun. a few of my coworkers range from a judge (just wore the gown over pants and a long sleeved shirt, added a gavel to carry around), a vampire (black cloak with creepy makeup), and belle from beauty and the beast (blue dress, white shirt, white apron). 

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  MrsHalpert.
Post # 39
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oh, you work in a law office?  Then that cop costume was definitely not appropriate!

The legal field is known as a very conservative field as far as what’s appropriate to wear to work.  I would not wear any kind of tight top to work in that case.  Form fitting is fine as long as it’s tailored and there’s no cleavage or anything else showing.  My sister is a lawyer and they have to wear professional clothes.

I work in a really casual office and if it’s a top that I would just wear going out, I would not wear it to work.

Post # 41
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

mchitt329:  Yeah not all law offices are super strict with dress codes, especially the smaller ones.  I could wear that tone downed version of the cop uniform to my office and it wouldn’t be a big deal.  I wouldn’t, because I don’t really do the dress up thing, but I could.  

Post # 42
444 posts
Helper bee

To begin with, I’m of the thought that costumes are inappropriate in professional environments where there are no children and you will have clients coming into your office. If you decide to tempt fate and wear a costume to a professional office, for the love of god don’t pick one with “sexy” in the title. 

Post # 43
11612 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

mchitt329:  side note to the actual appropriateness or lack thereof, you work for two bosses — who are married to each other. survival instincts might have clued you in that being the sexy cop ( and he came as prosecutor) might not go over well with one of your bosses.

Looking like you are deliberately turning on the husband of your boss is not the best career plan. fair or not. This is how your outfit might be perceived, I am not suggesting it was your intention. 

And yes, her comment was rude. But she’s the boss and the outfit is inappropriate. 


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