(Closed) can I borrow a veil from a friend?

posted 10 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
267 posts
Helper bee

I think it might be a little awkward to ask, since it’d be hard for her to say no without feeling a little guilty. Maybe you can gush over how gorgeous it was, and ask her where she got it so you can get one JUST like it, and if she feels like loaning it to you, she’ll offer. If she doesn’t offer, though, I wouldn’t ask.

Post # 4
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Tanya2s approach is the best way to go about it.


Post # 5
236 posts
Helper bee

It is totally allowed.  What a great something borrowed.  If you are worried she would feel pressured to lend it just let her know as you ask that you are ok with looking for another veil.  Or you could tell her how much you loved the veil and ask where she got it and what designer because you want the same ro similar veil.  She may jsut offer it.  Just be aware you will have to give it back.  Unless you offer to buy it from her…

Post # 6
27 posts
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would ask!  It is considered good luck to wear a friend or relative’s veil!!  I think that is such a nice compliment to the bride that you adore her veil. =)

Post # 7
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I agree with tanya2s as well.  Just start the conversation and if she’s  good friend I’m sure she will offer. 

I was in a semi-similar situation except that I just didn’t’ feel like paying a lot of $$$ for a veil so I was just going to look for something really inexpensive or on ebay.  When one of my best friend’s went dress shopping with me and heard my veil plans, she offered to let me borrow her veil (married 4 years ago and it is gorgeous) and I happily accepted.  I would have felt uncomfortable asking so I can understand your dilemma… 


Post # 8
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think it’s okay to ask.  I would be flattered if a friend asked to borrow mine, and it might as well be put to use if its just sitting in my closet!

Post # 10
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Right on the mark, Tanya!

Post # 11
202 posts
Helper bee

the other option is also offering to purchase her veil (maybe she wants to sell it!), and perhaps she may offer it to you or just let you borrow it if she wants to keep it.


however, if you are trying to save costs as well by borrowing, then yes, definitely take tanya’s advice (i would do that first anyways). 

Post # 12
202 posts
Helper bee

oh, and on the flip side, i would be nervous borrowing from a friend, especially if it’s a very nice veil, i would be too scared of stepping on it, ripping it, getting it way dirty etc..as they often drag or you/others would step on it accidentally.

i honestly don’t think i’d let someone borrow my veil, only because it’s ridiculously priced (about $800, i total regret it so no guilt trips please, lol).  i dont know what i was thinking but too late! gotta move past it. 😛

Post # 13
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would say it depends on the friend–you probably have a sense of whether or not she would offer to lend something like that out.

I have a friend who offered to GIVE me her wedding dress (with the only condition that I be willing to give it away to someone else), but have other friends who totally wouldn’t be comfortable lending out clothes…

I say, go with your gut, but give her lots of room to say no if she wants! 

Post # 14
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

That’s awesome that she said yes Gerby!

My mom who is a haridresser by profession had a 7 foot long cathedral veil made for me, she was compensating for my choice of a dress with no train LOL.. and now she lends it to brides she does hair and make up for. I love that it is being put to use! I feel like it has good vibes

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