Post # 1
I know people get all up in arms about people bringing other people to the wedding that weren’t on the named invite, and I don’t want to offend anyone, but here is the situation:
My best friend from high school is getting married this weekend. Due to a last minute work emergency, my boyfriend can’t make it with me since he won’t be able to get out of work early enough to travel with me (wedding is 4+ hrs from where we live). Both our names were on my invitation (i.e. it wasn’t a +1, but an invitation for me and my live in boyfriend)
My father was invited to the wedding, but since his then fiance was not invited (due to space limitations), he declined the invitation. My sister and mother will also be attending. Now that my father’s situation has changed, and my boyfriend also can’t attend, I am going to bring my Dad, if he wants to come.
In my opinion, I think its better to bring my Dad, and thus, not waste a meal that was already paid for. I feel very badly that my boyfriend can’t make it, but sometimes, work has to come first. Is this absolutely horrible? I’d try to get ahold of my friend to ask, but her wedding is tomorrow so I think she has other things on her mind, plus she’s hard to get ahold of on a good day. I don’t want to offend anybody either by taking someone other than the person on the invite.
Post # 3
I tihnk if you call your friend and ask if she minds, this wouldn’t be a problem… I know her wedding is tomorrow, but I’m sure she’d be happier to get the call than to just be confused at the reception when she sees your father and not your fiance!
Post # 4
I think this is something you’d have to check with the bride about. I wouldn’t of minded if this happened. But she might have a problem it, just because she may have already done placecards. I’m sure she’ll be ok with it though.
Post # 5
can you send her a text and ask? say something like, “sorry to bother you on such a busy day…” and explain the situation?
Post # 6
I agree with asking first. It probably won’t be a problem, but it’s proper to call and ask.
Post # 7
I think it’s alright, since your father was an invited guest already. If it was a random person that your friend didn’t know, that’s a different story, but since he is obviously known by the bride and indeed was invited himself, I don’t think it’ll be a big deal/problem.
Post # 8
I would call her/text her whatever you need to do to ask her, it’s her wedding and you don’t want to offend her or upset her.
Post # 9
I would also call her and explain your situation. Just be prepared if she says no to accept that. You don’t want to cause her any stress on her day, so respect her wishes either way she goes.
Post # 10
Definitely agree with the placecard point – don’t stress out the bride by catching her off guard on the day of. I’d reach out to her for sure.
Post # 11
i would ask first – since you are trying to sub in for someoen who cant come at the last minute so a meal isnt wasted, and its probably not a big deal since he was invited anyway just declined.
im sure it will be fine, but i would be polite and ask her (or her mom or whomever is doing the hosting of the meals etc.) if its ok.
Post # 12
Ok thanks. I will try calling, and if I can’t get ahold of her, I’ll call her mother instead.
Post # 13
Yeah, I’d call. If he was already invited, you know it’s not someone that she doesn’t want there, I wouldn’t find it to be a problem if I were the bride.
Post # 14
I think its considerate of you to recognize that your boyfriend’s meal has been paid for.
So, was your Dad sent an invite and he declined?
Definately keep trying to get a hold of her just to double check.
Post # 15
Bring your dad! It’s totally fine. What matters is that the meal count remain the same, which is what you’re doing. I think it’d be worse to show up by yourself when you rsvp-ed for 2 people.
Post # 16
Definitely call and find out first… but, if she doesn’t respond or you can’t get a response from anyone close to her – I’d say definitely bring your dad! You want to fill the already paid for seat, IMO, than not.