Post # 1
I am totally freaking out, and am close to a mental break down!! So not how I wanted my wedding planning to go. My fiancé and I have already signed our venues reception. I absolutely love it there, and that’s where I want my dream wedding. We booked it on a Thursday in May in 2018. My fiancé is working and is in the military, so he’s home on and off. I am working and going to school. Our families have said that they’d help us, but we have been paying for the venue all our self so far. We need MORE TIME!! It’s hard to plan a wedding when your fiancé is not home, and it’s hard to focuse on the wedding when I am trying to do well in school. We literally need one more year. That’s all we would need. I mean really need that, to save more money. I remember the day booking the venue, asking the wedding to be in 2019, and they said no because it was too far out. Now I’m realizing that we really need it. The following year would land on a Friday which would be more money for them! I have an appointment this week to ask and find out if we can or not. Has anyone run into this problem? What do you think my odds are them saying yes. I am praying!
Ps. Nothing else has been done but booking the venue, which is a good thing.
Post # 2
first question..if they can’t switch the date then would that’d mean you’d cancel with the venue? How much would that cost?
Post # 3
I would probably drop out college before I canceled the venue. 🙁 that’s my next choice, unfortunately. I really don’t want to do this. Canceling the venue intails 50% of the total cost.
Post # 4
I could have sworn I already answered this thread…
If they say that it’s too far out, can you push your date to as far out as they will let you and then push it out again at the time that they start booking May 2019?
Post # 5
Don’t drop out of college for a freaking wedding. Scale back anything else or scrap the venue. It is not worth stopping your education for a pretty princess party
Post # 6
May 2018 gives you more than a year… if it’s money, how about taking out a loan that you could pay back by 2019, or get a loan from family (hopefully with a low interest rate). If the venue is already booked, and they won’t change the date, it’s a better option than quitting school
Post # 7
i agree with anabee’s suggestion here. I know my venue was willing to work with me and once they opened up my ideal date, I was booked (perk: I got my choice of room and ceremony time before other brides (no ceremonies could be within 2 hours of one another so that the bridal party would have enough privacy for photos inside or out).
Post # 8
You’re not thinking clearly. You’d literally give up years and money of dedication, education and a future for a wedding. I can’t see anyone telling you that’s a good idea. How much is the venue?
Post # 9
It’s more than a year away and you haven’t booked anything except the venue. Why won’t you just save money from now and book all the other vendors as cheaply as possible. To me a wedding isn’t worth two years of saving and planning.
I mean switch if you want but I’m not sure if they will say yes, my venue doesn’t let you switch dates without losing the deposit.
Post # 10
Whatever you do, DO NOT DROP OUT OF COLLEGE.
Your degree will allow you and your family a better livelihood and secure your future. It is infinitely more important than the type of wedding you have.
Having a nice wedding is, well…nice. But it is not everything. Your education and career; your relationship with your Fiance and marriage; and your family’s future are all things that matter so much more than what your wedding day looks like.
Post # 11
I could not agree more. How is dropping out of college even an OPTION?? No, just no, no, no.