Post # 1
A couple of months back my friend from school invited me to her december wedding. I’ve really been looking forward to it…but she’s just txt me this morning asking if I’d like to do a reading at the wedding.
Firstly a little bit of background about our friendship – we met at school about 11 years ago. We were in the same friendship group till we left school then we drifted apart a bit for a couple of years. It’s only been the last year or so that we’ve started keeping in touch more.
The only time I’ve done a reading before was at my brothers wedding 5 years ago when I was bridesmaid. I didn’t really want to do it then but the other bridesmaid (the brides sister) was doing one and I felt I couldn’t say no!
I really don’t want to sound selfish but I really really hate public speaking. I was so looking forward to being a guest at the wedding and just enjoying the day without worrying about having a role. Does this sound awful? I also feel that I have a fair amount of stress at the moment (uni work, exams, looking to move house asap, baby daughter) and unfortunately I know that the thought of a reading would add to that.
Ahh is there any way I can politely decline? x
Post # 3
You can certainly decline. I would call her (not text) if you can’t meet face to face and explain that you really don’t like public speaking. Make sure to tell her how excited you are to come celebrate her wedding, though!
Post # 4
You can decline. Just say your fear of public speaking is overwhelming and while you’re touched and flattered by the request, you’d rather enjoy the ceremony from the audience.
It’s a bit crappy that you were invited by text. Please decline by phone!
Post # 5
Of course! Tell her you’d love to help but don’t feel comfortable speaking in public. Maybe offer to do something else behind the scenes to soften the blow?
Post # 6
I think you can politely decline. Just state the honest reasons you have mentioned above, maybe not everything, but you can mention your fear for public-speaking and how you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing a reading at her wedding.
If you feel that is not enough, you can also mention that you are having lots of things on your plate right now and you’d feel added stress and anxiety if you were to do a reading at her wedding as well.
Hopefully your friend will be understanding enough!
Post # 7
I feel the same way about public speaking. It’s flattering that she wants to include you in her wedding, but you can definitely decline.
Post # 8
I agree with all the previous comments. How flattering that she would ask you though 🙂
And welcome to the hive! 🙂