(Closed) Can I decline doing a reading?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
13385 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can certainly decline.  I would call her (not text) if you can’t meet face to face and explain that you really don’t like public speaking.  Make sure to tell her how excited you are to come celebrate her wedding, though!

Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can decline. Just say your fear of public speaking is overwhelming and while you’re touched and flattered by the request, you’d rather enjoy the ceremony from the audience.

It’s a bit crappy that you were invited by text. Please decline by phone!

Post # 5
7557 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Of course! Tell her you’d love to help but don’t feel comfortable speaking in public. Maybe offer to do something else behind the scenes to soften the blow? 

Post # 6
208 posts
Helper bee

I think you can politely decline. Just state the honest reasons you have mentioned above, maybe not everything, but you can mention your fear for public-speaking and how you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing a reading at her wedding.

If you feel that is not enough, you can also mention that you are having lots of things on your plate right now and you’d feel added stress and anxiety if you were to do a reading at her wedding as well. 

Hopefully your friend will be understanding enough!


Post # 7
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel the same way about public speaking. It’s flattering that she wants to include you in her wedding, but you can definitely decline.

Post # 8
4652 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agree with all the previous comments.  How flattering that she would ask you though 🙂

And welcome to the hive! 🙂

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