(Closed) Can I do the rehearsal dinner the week before the wedding instead of day before?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee

If you have it a week before, people will get sidetracked by their everyday lives (work, kids, etc) and completely forget what they are supposed to do at the ceremony, which is why the rehearsal is either the night before or 2 nights before the wedding. Also, if anyone is coming in from out of the area, they won’t be able to travel 2 weekends in a row unless they live an hour’s drive away max.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’d say no.  In that case, your family and bridal party will have to give up two weekends instead of one.  I’m in a wedding in April.  While I’m totally willing to give up one weekend entirely to my BFF, I’d be kind of upset about having to drive halfway across the state for 2 weekends.  Not to say that your wedding isn’t a fun sacrifice, but as far as the Rehearsal Dinner guests go, it’s a lot more considerate to condense the whole thing.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

If everyone can make it, go for it.  But if you have Out of Town family flying in that should be at the rehearsal and dinner , I would wait until the Thursday or Friday before your wedding, week of.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Are you having other family attend the rehearsal dinner through?  We had ALOT of Out of Town people at our rehearsal dinner. 

I dont feel like it takes away from the wedding, I feel the opposite actually – it ADDS to the excitement and thrill! It was very exciting being at my rehearsal the night before the wedding realizing I would be married the next day and all my friends and family were there to see it and support us.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

I’ve never heard anyone say that the rehearsal dinner takes away from the wedding day itself. Even from a guest’s standpoint, when I have been invited to rehearsal dinners, it hasn’t affected the fun of the wedding day. If you want to enjoy yourself at the wedding, you will. Those are two completely separate events.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Wow.  My first instinct is to say, why not have it a week before?  Some people might actually welcome that.  Then they wouldn’t have to worry about geting home to get to bed early or suffer the consequences of being tired for the wedding.  Are you having some kind of complicated ceremony?  If not, I wouldn’t worry about people really forgetting what they are supposed to do.  But perhaps you could check with some of those folks.

The only problem I see, is if you have people participating in the wedding, or coming to the Rehearsal Dinner, who will be Out of Town, as naangel55 said.  If so, you’ll either run into them skipping the rehearsal, or griping about having to travel twice (or stay an entire week.)  If there were Out of Town guests who you had planned to invite, who will now get to experience the Rehearsal Dinner, I might opt to keep it closer to the wedding. …But honestly, if it’s going to be the Thursday (not Friday) before the wedding, I’m not sure how many of your Out of Town guests will be there on Thursday anyway??

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you can do whatever you like. But I do think you need to rehearse. It gets stressful that day, and little things happen (a song plays too long, etc) and everyone gets all screwed up. I would doubly encourage a rehearsal when kids are involved. At the very least have the kids do a practice that morning. You will feel much calmer knowing exactly what is going to happen.

PS: An added bonus is you won’t be able to see your Maid/Matron of Honor and the kids walk down the aisle on the real day. So this way you at least get a sense of what it will be like. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I think its smart to do it the week before. I wanted my daughter to change hers to the Sunday before,as we had to make several trips to the venue (an hr.& half each way) to take all the things we needed to be there early.  As it is,we did have it the night before and all I wanted to do was get it over with and relax in our room!  I was exhausted checking in early and getting everything ready in the ballroom. Lots of last minute things to do (as the MOB) even if the room is being set up by the staff. They put on the chair covers but wouldn’t tie the sashes…we had 120 to do….we set up the candy buffet,place cards,centerpieces,favors,Out of Town guest bags….the bride & groom got to relax but not the MOB & MOH! lol

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I think the Rehersal Dinner is a nice way to have an intimate “welcome” dinner with family and the wedding party and out of town guests. It is also nice for guests to meet before the wedding if they have traveled in and don’t know many other people. I guess I see the rehersal to have a different benefit than the dinner. Maybe you coule skip the rehersal and all go out to dinner then have the run through the morning of the wedding to get the kids in line and make sure no one forgets.

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