(Closed) Can I drink wine in front of my SUPER conservative In Laws?

posted 3 years ago in Home
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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edobbs87 :  My Mother-In-Law is conservative and thinks a sip of alcohol will make you drunk and crazy. Lol. DH and I drink in front of her on occasion, but I’m always sure not to go overboard around her. Just a couple glasses of wine or a couple of beers.

Does your Father-In-Law know that his son drinks on occasion? If so, then you’ll probably be fine. However, in your circumstance I would make sure that if you have a glass of wine in your hand, your hubby does too. I probably wouldn’t be the “lone drinker” in this situation. 😉 Just my two cents, good luck!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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edobbs87 :  is conduct my life as usual. As you said, they’re guests in your home, and it’s not like you’re doing anything illegal or very out of social norms. You do you and don’t worry about it. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

If you weren’t raised conservative Southern Baptist, I don’t know why they’d expect you to follow their religion anyway. I’m very pro wine – you do you, they’ll be ok. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’d take a stand and enjoy my wine! Your house, your rules 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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edobbs87 :  Perfect! Then I’d just go ahead and do it if you want! I wouldn’t even mention anything. Just pour yourself a glass and act like nothing is weird (even if it feels weird). Throughout the many years you will be married this will be a continuous issue, esp if you go out to eat with them on a regular basis. Might as well ease into it so that you feel comfortable ordering drinks when you go out if you have the urge to do so.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

If he drinks in front of them and you haven’t noticed any side-eye, then it sounds like they will be perfectly fine with it! If they were staying for a day or two, I’d say maybe hold off on the wine just because it’s better not to offend (not that it’s outright offensive–just as a host worried about the comfort of her guests). But if they’re staying for a whole week, then it’s more on them to be accomodating of your lifestyle as that is a gracious stay. I think you’re okay to enjoy a glass or two!

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Bumble bee

Yes, live your life.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I am a big fan of the idea of “your house, your rules.” This goes for young adults living in their parent’s homes and visitors to your home. THEY can adjust to something other than what they expect or what they are used to; it is YOUR home. If they are so incredibly offended by your behavior, next time they can stay in a hotel (with no hotel bar). Ultimately, if their son orders drinks and consumes alcohol around them, then I cannot imagine they would hold you to a different standard. 

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