Post # 17
I don’t think e-mailing the guys an invitation is a big deal. Most guys wouldn’t even notice if they didn’t get an formal invite!
I do not, however, think that e-mailing thank you cards is appropriate. There is just something to be said about taking the time to personally handwrite a card and address and mail it that makes the "thank-you" more sincere. I would stick with handwritten T-Ys.
Post # 18
I’m with suzanno on this one–she hit the nail on the head.
If you want people to make the effort to come, or if they’ve taken the effort to buy you a present–then I think you should afford them the effort/cost in a hard copy invite or thank you.
Boys & techies may not realllllly know the difference (I’m having this same debate in my head about a co-ed baby shower I’m hosting soon), but I would do my best to resist the urge to do either invites or thank yous for a wedding by email… It may be the only event you ever have to plan that calls for such (necessary) formality.
Post # 19
If you want to e-vite people to the wedding then I think you could. I mean it’s not traditional – but it gets the job done.
The thank you cards however, would be really inappropriate. They took the time to come to your wedding, bring you a gift and so on. It’s ony fair you show them the curtosy of hand writing a thank you card to show your gratitude.
Post # 20
Definately real invitations and handwritten thank you’s for everyone, no matter how tech-savvy they are.
It almost makes the emailed invites seem like B-listers, like you didn’t buy enough invitations or something. I really think you need to go all or nothing on this one.