(Closed) Can I get away with not making a seating chart?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Seating chart for a casual reception? Yay or nay?
    A seating chart is an absolute must : (50 votes)
    64 %
    I think open seating works : (28 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 32
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I’m not sure if someone has already made this point yet…

    I understand that a major concern when considering seating charts, it avoiding the chaos that can come with open seating. But to me, this is not the real issue. I think the best reason to have a chart, is to avoid the “getting picked last for dodgeball” effect.

    I have been to several open seating weddings, and every SINGLE time, friends and family flock towards tables, and some people end up being left out. For example, at a cousins wedding I sat with my fiancé, future sister in law, future brother in law, and their spouses. It was not until after we were seated for a few minutes that we noticed my fiancé’s baby sister sitting alone awkwardly, at the neighboring table, with red cheeks.

    We immedeately got up to move, but the moment could have been avoided. I

    also went to a friends wedding, where her Grandmother walked in a few minutes after the initial “rush” and found herself sitting at one of the tables, furthest from the couple. Tiny little Grandma spent the evening craning her neck to see everything. 

    Those experiences convinced me that no matter how big or small, seating charts are a must. You will want to make sure Grandma, Mom, Dad, etc. are sitting close by. You also want to make sure that friends who might not know any other guests, don’t feel alone, and couples don’t get split up at different tables, because everything else is full. 

    Bottom line: there is a reason it takes brides hours to figure out seating. Don’t leave your guests to figure it out, in a matter of seconds. I highly reccomend making a chart 🙂

    Post # 33
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    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Peaceoutboyscout:  having “assigned seats” is nusually for weddings where you indicated a meal choice on your RSVP. It avoids servers walking around the table shouting “who had the chicken??” and allows them to serve the ladies first. They know who is sitting where, and what they ordered. If you are not doing this (I am having family style) then I think it is unnecessary, and I agree….a little silly.

    Post # 34
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    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Backyard

    I can’t say I’ve ever been to a wedding with a seating chart. It’s really difficult for me to imagine this being a necessity. 

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We didn’t have one at ours, but almost every other one I’ve ever been to had assigned tables, which just feels silly to me. Pardon my language, but I’m a grown ass woman and I don’t understand why I need to be told where to sit. Often I ended up getting paired with a table of complete strangers who I had nothing in common with. Very awkward. But when I did have the option to sit where I wanted, I sat with people I felt comfortable with and still managed to introduce myself, talk, and mingle with other people I didn’t know. I figure people are perfectly able to chose where to sit in other social situtations, parties, etc. So why do we suddenly need assignments at weddings? Our reception was kind of a free-for all. Sit where you want, feel free to pull chairs around, mingle with who you want to mingle with. Worked out perfectly. Although I will say that I pretty much never sat down and was on the dance floor the whole night, but my guests did not seem to have a problem with it.

    Post # 36
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    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard

    I just realized the wedding I went to this summer didn’t have table assignments. It was totally fine 165 guests. 

    Post # 37
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    1499 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve actually never been to a wedding WITH seating charts and never had a problem with it.  I suppose it has more to do with your guests and local mores.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I went to a casual wedding without seating charts and I honestly had a hard time figuring out where to sit. I sat one place, my friends didn’t see me and sat elsewhere – it wound up being a little chaotic and I wound up eating with my parents and some other motley people because I couldnt very well say “bye id rather sit over there” mid meal. 

    That said, if you’re going to skip it, sounds like you have the wedding to do it at. It’s definitely a casual way to go. 

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