Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m turning to you, hive, for some etiquette advice! I’d love to hear your opinion.
I have a wedding to attend this winter up in NYC. It’s going to be freezing, so I figured I’d wear a dress with tights and a fancy cardigan or blazer.
I fell in love with this dress from the J. Crew factory store:
Now, even though I wouldn’t care at all if someone wore this to my wedding, I know that a lot of brides get offended by guests wearing ivory or white. And I’d never want to upstage the bride.
Here’s the thing, though: there is no bride. This is a wedding between two men.
So, armed with that knowledge, and knowing that I’d wear this with black tights and a black cardigan or blazer, what do you think?
Is this still inappropriate to wear to a wedding, even if there is no bride to upstage?
Post # 3
You know, there’s obviously not going to be some hard fast rule for this, so I’d probably just play it safe and choose a dress of a different color. It’s a cute dress, but why risk it?
Post # 4
No bride + black cardigan = why not?
Post # 6
Since you will be wearing a black cardigan, I don’t think a black and white outfit would be unacceptable and since it’s 2 men you should be totally in the clear.
Post # 7
I think as long as you keep the cardigan on (and it sounds like you will since it’ll be freezing) its fine. If there were a bride then I would say no way.
Post # 8
@MissBoston: Ditto! And it is a super cute dress. J.Crew knows what they’re doing (except their proportions never seem to work for me!)
Post # 9
I think it should be totally fine; however, you might want to check with the guys to make sure. I don’t think it would even be a problem if there was a bride. It doesn’t look at all like a bridal gown.
Post # 10
It’s super cute and will be totally fine!!!!
Post # 11
I think it’s adorable and would be okay, but I suggest asking the grooms what they think.
Post # 12
I second asking the happy couple.
Post # 13
Since there is no bride, would seem fine, but only if you had a blazer and white is only an accent color, not the whole outfit, In My Humble Opinion
Post # 14
very cute dress…. with the accessories you are talking about it — i bet it would be fine!
PLUS – unless one of the grooms is wearing a dress — I think that rule is out the door.
Post # 15
I LOVE the dress! Maybe it’s because I won’t really care if someone wears a white dress to my wedding (unless it is really long and clearly a bridal gown, but that would be weird anyway, right?) I say go for it, but like others have suggested, maybe just shoot an email to the grooms so that you can have peace of mind? Also….that would be a fabulous rehearsal dinner dress!
Post # 16
Probably fine, but why not ask the grooms? Beautiful dress.