(Closed) Can I Get Engaged

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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4152 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I don’t understand why you getting engaged has anything to do with your BFF.  But I do understand watching people around you get engaged when you want to too is a little tough. Welcome to the hive.

Post # 4
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511 posts
Busy bee

I understand that it’s partly because you’re so young, but seriously? Whose permission do you need? If you want to get engaged, get engaged.  Stop worrying about what other people are going to think and do what you want.

Post # 6
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

your friend told him not to propose to you because it’s her birthday? sorry, but that is a really [email protected]# move.  you should totally get engaged. a true friend would be happy for you.  

but I wouldn’t miss one of your friend’s parties for the engagement. can’t you just get engaged on a different night? 

Post # 8
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511 posts
Busy bee

@misslillypad:  Are you planning on living your life on a schedule given to you by your girlfriend? I don’t think so. You get only one turn on this merrygoround called life, so live it!

Post # 9
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@misslillypad:  There will always be life events occurring around you, whether it is a friend’s birthday, a holiday, another wedding, etc. You friend has a lot of nerve directing you to tell your fiance no if her proposes to you on her birthday! She needs to grow up!   

If you and your fiance want to become engaged, just do it.  Life is short! I apologize if I sound ageist, but I think your indecision stems from being younger and easily influenced by your friends.  I feel like i sought the approval of my friends and family much more when I was in my twenties.  I’m not suggesting that your boyfriend propose to you at your friend’s birthday party, but seriously, you and your fiance keep talking about getting engaged and picking a day for him to “propose,” enough already! You need to focus on you and him.  The people in your life who love you will be happy for you no matter what!  

Post # 11
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No offence to you, but it seems a little immature to be basing your relationship moving forward on what all of your friends think. Why is it up to your friend whether or not your boyfriend can propose to you on her birthday? Why is this even an issue. And I got engaged right before my best friends wedding and she was ecstatic for me.

I guess I just don’t understand all of the hesitation. You will have to make decisions the two of you for the rest of your life so why not start now

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ashescats:  No offence to you, but it seems a little immature to be basing your relationship moving forward on what all of your friends think.

 

 

Look at their ages though.  Don’t think they can help their immaturity. 

 

OP, if you are that worried about getting engaged around other friend’s birthdays, etc, etc….maybe that is a sign that you are too young to consider marriage. 

Post # 14
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1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@misslillypad:  Who cares about your bridezilla friend though? Seriously it is YOUR life, live it.

Post # 16
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sounds like there’s a lot of immaturity in your social circle.

Why are you even friends with people who acts like this? You’ll find yourself shedding these ill-fitting friendships in your 20s (I hope).

A marriage isn’t about others. If you guys are too suceptible to peer pressure to make your own decisions, you probably aren’t in a place where you should be getting married.

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