Post # 1
Is it wrong to get rid of a bridesman(male bridesmaid)? I asked a friend of mine (male) to be in my wedding awhile ago. He got married about 7 months ago and since his wedding, I haven’t seen much of him at all and we very rarely speak. He isn’t involved in the wedding planning at all and hasn’t helped my other bridesmaids with ANYTHING. The other part of this situation is that he was supposed to walk down the isle with my junior bridesmaids. My junior bridesmaids aren’t able to be in the wedding anymore so now my male friend is also the odd man out(pun intended). Would it be completely wrong of me to ask him to do something special like read something in the ceremony or have him escort my guests instead of having him be a bridesman?
Post # 3
hm…well in terms of not doing anything for the wedding, did you voice your expectations with him? he may just not know what you want him to do as I am guessing he hasn’t been a bridesman before.
Post # 4
He might just feel uncomfortable because he’s a man and all the other attendants are women. What kind of planning were you expecting from him? Is it really a big deal to just let him show up in his tux on the wedding day? It’s not really fair to demote him just because he isn’t really interested in bouquets or has no one to walk down the aisle with. Those things aren’t his fault. I bet all he was expecting when you asked was the honour of standing with you on your day, and I wouldn’t take that away from him.
Post # 5
I honestly don’t think he is uncomfortable with the planning(he planed the majority of his wedding) plus he has been friends with some of my bridemaids since high school and we are now 30. I wasn’t expecting him to do a lot but when my other bridesmaids asked him to help pick a location for my wedding shower he didn’t even return their phone calls. I don’t expect him to plan but he used to hang out with the girls and do all that sort of stuff but now, he barely talks to me. I am not demoting him because he doesn’t care about the wedding stuff. I just feel like we aren’t really friends anymore and yes I’ve tried talking to him about hanging out but there has been no changes.