(Closed) Can I get some much-needed advice please?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@danifannie21:  I don’t think you should worry about whether you are being reasonable versus unreasonable. If he’s going to be your husband you should be able to share your feelings with him either way. You should just tell him you are uncomfortable with it.

Post # 4
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1857 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t see anything wrong with him having them over, but why would some of the girls be sleeping over? That part doesn’t make sense, and I can understand being uncomfortable with that.

Post # 5
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@dihy:  Agree.

 

@danifannie21:  I would personally not be okay with this. Girls sleeping at the house when you’re not there is not okay especially considering these are girls newly in his life. However, everyone has different opinions on these types of scenarios. Tell your FI how you truly feel in a non-confrontational way.

Post # 6
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@danifannie21:  Like another user answered, it’s not up to us to say if it is reasonable or not (but i think it is TOTALLY innapropriate) you are half of the marriage and hopefully he will respect you saying no. i think most wives/husbands would do the same thing. 

Post # 7
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Um…that seems a little inappropiate to me, but it dosn’t matter how I feel about it. You need to tell him how you feel.

Post # 8
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@danifannie21:  women sleepovers. hell no. having a party of new colleagues without you, nope. personally, i wouldn’t go for either. that being said, we live together so any parties we have are joint affairs. if he wants to spend time with colleagues outside of work (which isn’t always a great idea), i think they should go for happy hour to a public place and call it a day. if he wants to invite them into his home, i think he sould wait fir you to get back to town and the two of you shuld host the party together. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it’s inappropriate for any type of adult sleepover with co-workers.  All sorts of things could happen that could lead to problems.  Believe it or not even sexual harrassment charges can be raised from outside of work activities.  I think he needs to cancel his plans for this shindig pronto.

Post # 11
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

So inappropriate!

Post # 12
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@cruffino:  This. I would expect my husband to respect my wishes if I said no. You’re not saying that they can’t hang out, or hang out outside of work, just not at your house while you are not there. I’d tell my husband I’d love to have all these people over to meet them, and set up a date once I’m home. This is showing compromise – just having a bunch of women over while you are uncomfortable about it is not showing compromise on his side. 

I hope you’ll be able to get through to him, good luck. 

 

 

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