Post # 1
My older sister got engaged two years ago. When she did, I was toying with the idea of getting a small pink flower tattoo on my ankle. I had the design, the scale, I was ready to do it. I already have one tattoo on my shoulder. My sister also has two tattoos.
Now my sister thought she might have her bridesmaids (including me) in shorter dresses, so she told me I wasn’t allowed to get the tattoo on my ankle. It really bothered me, but I agreed that I wouldn’t get it before her wedding.
But after two years of being engaged and doing no planning she decided to have surgery to correct her jaw, saying that she couldn’t get married with it being off-centre. But this process will take an additional four years – by which time according to our timeline I’ll already be married. I’ve mentioned my tattoo to her again recently, and she keeps telling me I’m still not allowed to have it done in case she chooses non-floor length bridesmaid dresses. I’ve even expressed that I’d happily cover it with makeup, but she says it’s too obvious.
This is really bothering me now; I want this tattoo done I’ve been waiting for years, and with her wedding being pushed back I feel like it’s my body and I should be able to do what I want with it! What’s your advice, bees? Should I wait for four years so I don’t ‘ruin’ her wedding photos, or just get it done and let her be angry at me?
Post # 3
This is your choice, and I think that you should go for it! If she really has an issue, it can be airbrushed or you can cover it with Kat Von D’s tattoo concealer. And no, you won’t notice them. She can’t tell that you aren’t allowed to do things to your own body, and with the wedding being pushed back, why push back something you’ve been waiting for years to do?
Post # 4
I’m sorry, if anyone ever told me that I wasn’t ‘allowed’ to get a tattoo I would hit them. You are an adult, you can do whatever you want. If she isn’t okay with you getting a tattoo then she doesn’t have to have you in her wedding. A little flower tattoo on your ankle isn’t going to ruin anything on her wedding day.
Go get the tattoo.
Post # 5
She cannot dictate what you do to your body. Just because it isn’t her taste does not give her leeway to be bridezilla and tell you that you can’t do it.
Post # 6
I personally do not like tattoos, but I don’t think you should wait for your sister to give you the okay! If you want to get a tattoo, do it. You have already graciously waited for two years and she still isn’t married – I wouldn’t wait any longer.
Post # 7
lol WHAT? an ankle tattoo that you’ve offered to cover up with makeup will NOT ruin any pictures. Tell her to shove it.
Post # 8
Um if you want to a tattoo you go get it. Its not your sisters decsision.
Post # 9
Get it! A small pink flower is hardly going to ruin her pictures. It is not her right to say what you can and can’t do with your own body anyway! She might be the bride, but that just sounds like an abuse of power to me, especially when she is having a 4 year engagment.
Post # 10
Um no – you go get that tattoo if you want! I mean I could understand if she were getting married soon and, out of respect for your sister, you decided to wait until the wedding was over to get it, but 4+ years?! Neh eh! And not that it matters that much, but it’s not like you’re getting the devil tattooed on your ankle..it’s a flower for crying out loud! Just do it – she’ll get over it 😉
Post # 11
@PacificMrs: I agree with covering it with makeup get it and if she choses shorter dresses its super easy to cover it your an adult do what you want.
Post # 12
This tattoo is something you’ve wanted for a while and it’s not her right to “forbid” you to do anything. This tattoo will be part of your body and who you are for the rest of your life, and she can either accept all of you (subtle tattoo included), have you cover it up, or ask you to step down from the wedding. But it’s not her place to tell you who you’re allowed to be and what decisions you’re allowed make for yourself.
Post # 13
@TopazTurtle: Seriously?? I can’t believe you’ve let her control what you do to your body for YEARS already, for a wedding that doesn’t seem to be happening any time soon! Go get your tattoo, girl!
Post # 14
For reference, this is the tattoo:
Sorry it’s enormous!!
Post # 15
@TopazTurtle: get the tattoo! She can’t tell you what you can and can’t do with your body because it will somehow interfere with her unplanned wedding. That’s ridiculous!
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Just get the tattoo. If she hasn’t even started planning yet and it will take over four years, that is unreasonable. Plus, it’s even more important that you have it for your wedding than that you don’t have it for hers.