Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2015 - Beach
I’ve been to 3 places so far. I’ve done with my 2 bridesmaids, Maid/Matron of Honor, FSMIL, my own step mother, and now I’m going with my step mom again and my brother to a fourth place. I’ve found dresses I like (and LOVE) but none within my budget.
Every time I go, the consultant picks out dresses over my budget, and my entourage also pick out dresses over my budget. The consultants really try to stay close, but for example my step mom was picking out $1,600 dresses when my budget is around $700. They all do this too. And when I say its over budget they say not to worry but wouldn’t offer to help if thats the dress I chose. They all have the idea that the dress is a big deal and I should spend more since its a one-time special occasion, but it just isn’t that important for me.
I’m SO aggravated about dress shopping. At this point, all the dresses look the effin’ same and I’m just sick of it. I’m thinking maybe I should just go by myself so all the outside pressure is gone. Has anyone else done this?
Post # 2
I picked my dress myself and only showed my friends once I had chosen it. It sounds like you’ve had too many cooks in the kitchen. You’ll have more clarity and control if you go dress shopping yourself. Maybe then it will be fun again.
Post # 3
Your friends and family aren’t listening to you and that’s kind of rude of them. If I were you I would go try on by myself.
Post # 4
I have a friend who did this. She went a couple times with her mom, aunt, etc., and didn’t find anything due to everyone’s conflicting opinions, but the day she went by herself, she walked out of the store with a dress (one she loves!).
Have you gotten a sense of which styles you like and what flatters you based on the feedback of the people you went shopping with before? If so, then I think going alone to pull the trigger on a dress would be a great way to minimize stress and stay within your budget. No one’s opinion matters more than your own.
Post # 5
Yes you can. Be prepared though, sometimes brides who go alone are treated pretty rudely. Most places will accommodate, especially if you have already been there with an entourage.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
You absolutely can. I’ve found there are a few things I’ve wanted to do myself. My Fiance keeps asking “don’t you want so and so to go with you?” because he’s worried I’m afraid onf inconveniencing someone and putting myself in the back seat, but really, I just want to do it myself. I think we get the message that everything wedding related has to be a big party and we have to make a big deal about everything, but I find it a lot less stressful to just do certain things by myself. Do whatever feels right to you.
Post # 7
I went the first 3 times with someone, my last time was a group and boy was it a mistake. Seeing the reaction to certain dresses initially weighed heavily on my 1st dresses decision. I honestly had a much more realxing experience when I went by myself.
Post # 9
I went by myself- best decision ever! I knew what I wanted. I took a long lunch, because the bridal shop I went to was right by my office. Was there for about an hour an a half- and was done.
Post # 10
Yup, I did almost all of my dress shopping by myself. The only person that happened to be with me the day I got my dress was my mom, but we had just stopped in while running errands and ended up finding my dress.
PP said that sometimes people shopping alone are treated rudely – I didn’t have that experience at any place except one (and that was a sketchy joint with a consultant that was selling a 2008 sample for almost full-price, so hopefully just an especially bad place).
My sister went shopping alone too – people were generally nice to her, although some seemed to feel really bad for the military bride trying to get a dress so she could get married before her husband deployed. Given the situation she actually appreciated the fawning and extra attention.
I’d definitely go it alone. While I did most of my shopping alone, the first few times I was sending photos to all my friends and family. Their opinions actually managed to kill a lot of dresses I would have been happy with in my mind. You are the best judge of what you should get for your big day.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2015 - Beach
Can you elaborate on this? Could I be ignored or be rushed by the consultant or pressured to buy?
Post # 12
I went by myself in the middle of a week day. I loved it. Excellent service since no one else was shopping and the consultants had nothing else to do. No pressure to buy and I was never rushed.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2015 - Barn with apple orchard
You can definitely go by yourself, especially if your people aren’t actually helping. You might still want to have the consultant or someone take some pictures of you in the dresses you’re considering, though. I was torn between two dresses that I loved and they both looked great in the mirror, but one of them made me look kind of matronly in pictures. It was very weird, but I never would have known that without the pictures!
Post # 14
After several attempts of going with family and friends and not finding anything I liked. I decided to go dress shopping alone to figure out what I really wanted. Once I found the dress, I brought my family and bridal party to check it out before making the final purchase. I loved shopping alone especially on a weekday because like a PP said no one was there so you got all the attention.
Post # 15
yes you can! i went with my bridesmaids and i appreciated their opininons because after all, they want me to look my best, but it gets confusing hearing everyones opinions, and also, it was hard getting them together. So i decided i was going to go by myself one morning but my mom had overheard me saying i was going to go by myself so she asked if she can come with me and i happened to find my dress. I also liked that no one besides my mom knew what dress i picked.