(Closed) Can I have a pregnant girl vent moment?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

@Wonderstruck:  Omg. I’m so sorry that everyone has so many dang opinions about your pregnancy! That would definitely be frustrating… I bet they are just super, super excited about everything, maybe?

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Oh hon feel free to vent. I’m sure I will be doing a lot of that about all my family and my Mother-In-Law. That would drive me nuts, I hope it doesn’t continue like that.  

Are they coming up with silly nick names for the baby? My family does that a lot we’ve Beeker, Vader, Chewy. But no one has ever called the kid those names after they were born. We have a ton of kids in our family so if your refering to the baby as amy and decide to name her lucy the kids get all confused. but if its a silly name they think its just the tummy name.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@Wonderstruck:  Worst one I’ve ever heard was “Cletus the Fetus.” How disrespectful!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Wonderstruck:  Aww I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time with family!  I can sooooooo relate though. My mom has told me about 5 billion times that it doesn’t matter what the doctors say I’m going to deliver late, that I shouldn’t take the prescription anti-naseau medicine because morning sickness always goes away by the second trimester and I must be imagining it now (I’m 18 weeks). I’ve also been told I’m going to have diabetes because I was overweight when I concieved, I haven’t gained enough weight (well of course not- I’ve been busy vomiting lol) and that all the other women I’m related to for the last 200 years have had pregnancies that went nothing like mine and there must be something wrong with me. 

Forturnatly Darling Husband has been super supportive, and his parents are awesome too- it will be their first grandbaby, (DH is an only child) and they are amazing.  I now have a rule- I only discuss pregnancy with my family if we are going to see/talk to his family later in the day so they can make me feel better.  I also tend to zone out when Mom starts talking- an occasional nod seems enough for her to keep going and I can tune out most of the crazyness.

I hope your family calms down soon- hang in there!  Remember we all have super different pregnancies, you and your doctor get to decide whats right for you, and its only 9 months of this.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

@Wonderstruck:  Aw, love, I am so sorry. Sounds kind of like a monster-in-law than a mother-in-law… I’m sorry =(

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

That sounds so annoying, I would have Darling Husband talk to them to make them stop, you shouldn’t have to go through all that.  The name thing I think is the most annoying, this is your baby and not theirs!  And with the concert thing, some hopefull info, my mom went to a big concernt 2 days before she had me and still had a blast apparently. I hope you have as good of luck but who knows because all pregnancies are different 🙂  Best of luck!!!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow, that name thing is truly obnoxious. I don’t know what I would do…probably have a pregnancy hormone induced meltdown all over them. It would serve them right after provoking you. I wish you luck with your pregnancy.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@Wonderstruck:  Channel your inner B*TCH an put them in their place. This is your baby not theirs. If they want to decide names tell them to have another one or play the sims.

My Mother-In-Law tries to march all over me because i’m not her grand-daughter’s mom. but I’ve been around since her 1st birthday and she’s been living with us for 2 years now. Thats what I had to do call on the inner B, in my case she’s on call 24-7 and put Mother-In-Law back in place when she disrespeced me in the same ways again I was like ok if you can’t follow OUR rules you can’t see her. changed her song quick now we are all good. But I just found out that i’m pregnant so we’ll see how this goes.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’d recommend checking out this forum 🙂 I’m a big lurker bc I have a crazy family and their advice is invaluable! 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Wonderstruck:  oh god that’s brutal. Can you refrain from spending time with these annoying people? If I was as annoyed as you I would be seriously thinking about telling them to stfu already. You could choose an obvious ‘I’m really effing annoyed but trying to be polite’ mantra like “thank you for your perspective. You probably had similar pregnancies because you are related and a lot of this is genetic. I’m not surprised that mine is going quite differently.’. If they keep telling you that you’re wrong you need to just stare blankly back at them and say “no, I’m actually right.” That is what I would do anyway. So sorry you are dealing with this crap! Be strong! Try to communicate to your hubby that you need to feel like the 2 of you are a team, before you reach your breaking point. He will be more likely to see your side of things when you are less emotional. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Two words – limit contact. If they wind you up so much, I’d just limit the time I have to spend around them… You’ve got to put yourself first sometimes.

 

Hope the situation improves 🙂

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