(Closed) Can I have a whiney sad guest list moment?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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HannahGrace:  I’m just a naturally curious person and I wanted to see what the average was. The weddings were all very different, but most of them were in the same ballpark guest-wise.

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ll come to your pity party! That sucks.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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luluvohn:  Interesting.  I’ve been to dozens of weddings in my life and I cannot tell you how many people were at any of them.  I can tell you whether I had fun though!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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StL.Ashley:  My numbers are really similar to yours. We invited 168, and we’re sitting at…92, maybe 94. I was hoping for no more than 100, since our venue is small, but there are a couple of people we were hoping would come that can’t make it, so that makes me sad. Our wedding is also an 8-hour drive for half the guests, so I get it, but still…pity party haha 🙂 Whatever, our weddings will be awesome anyway!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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HannahGrace:  I can tell you that, too. I don’t think one precludes the other.

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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StL.Ashley:  We sent 127 including guests, we have 53 attending if that makes you feel any better….

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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luluvohn:  It just seems like an odd thing to focus on.  I’m intellectually curious but of all the factors surrounding weddings, the number of people at them does not register with me at all.  It’s not like it is a popularity contest.

OP, I understand your disappointment but that is a really nice number of people and I am sure you will have a blast!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

We only have 98 on our guest list so I’m starting to get worried if people will actually show up or not…

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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HannahGrace:  It’s not like I’m walking around doing a head count. I just kind of scan the room during a down time like the vocal solo (not generally a fan) or I count the tables, count the people at our table and estimate.

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Wait OP, has your “due date” for RSVP’s passed? Because lots of people wait til after you need them to RSVP. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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lealorali:  Like wait on purpose? Just curious. Ours hasn’t passed yet (next Saturday).

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

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luluvohn:  I count the tables and the number of seats at each table too! I am always curious to know how many people are there. I still have a blast too. I am just curious- it isn’t a competition lol. Ignore her.

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Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We invited 125, 80 RSVPed yes, 2 dropped out the week of the wedding, and an additional 9 no-showed. It can definitely feel depressing at times.

Focus on you “must haves” who have made it and how great it is that they are there. Know that you’ll actually have a chance to mingle with everyone! Even at our small wedding, it was difficult to chat with everyone. I can’t imagine how much harder if we had had the full amount. 

And just because some people couldn’t make it doesn’t mean they don’t love and support you. Stuff gets in the way, and you have to accept that.

Post # 29
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Newbee

I purposefully only invited 33 people to my wedding.

Oh the horror! =D

And to be honest, I would be perfectly tickled and happy if some of them didn’t show up either!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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MrsMariposa:  haha, around 30 is my magic number too! But I can see that if someone wanted a big wedding and has a smaller guest count than they pictured, it would bum them out.

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