Post # 1

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Wannabee
My mom and sister (my MOH) would like to throw me a bridal shower, but they asked if they can host it at my house because I’m the best housekeeper. I guess they don’t want to have it at a restaurant in order to save $$. I’m hesitant because I feel like people may interpret it as me hosting/throwing my own shower. Is this poor etiquette?
Post # 3

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Honey bee
I would have no problem with it.
Post # 4

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Busy bee
Sounds fair. They seem like they really want to throw it, be may not have the $ otherwise. I’d be ok with it.
Post # 5

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Sugar Beekeeper
I’m not saying this to be mean in any way. However, from an etiquette perspective, immediate family of the bride — including mothers and sisters — should not host the shower. To then have the shower at your apartment may further create a negative impression.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
@Brielle: I think times are changing as far as this is concerned, at least in my circle/part of the country moms throw showers all the time.
My shower will be at my house for a variety of reasons. First of all the guest list is almost 80 people so its cheaper for my bridal party to have a home shower and not have to rent a space. Also, I have the biggest house so it just made sense. My shower is being thrown primarily by my Maid/Matron of Honor but my mom is helping a lot, mostly because she loves being involved! I know the other girls, my Future Mother-In-Law and FSIL’s are helping out as well.
Post # 7

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Busy bee
That’s totally normal! It allows people an eye into the brides life I think and they would totally want to see your life! I wish mine were at my house but I would be too stressed trying to clean before this wedding in 7 weeks lol
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
As long as they are truly throwing the event for you. You should only contribute a guest list and possibly a theme if they ask. Other than that, brides should not plan their own showers.
Post # 9

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Sugar bee
I think it’s fine, as long as the invitations are issued by Mom/MOH and you stay out of the planning (other than providing a guest list) and the paying.
Post # 10

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Worker bee
I do not think it is problem to have the party at your place. Older traditions have more distant relatives or friends host the bridal shower, but times have change where it is more common for the mother and sister (s) host. As long as the invites state who is hosting, that is appropriate.