(Closed) Can I have no mass but Fiance and I still take communion?

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I really don’t know … I don’t think I’ve ever seen that done. You’d better ask the priest!

Post # 4
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m pretty sure that to take Communion it needs to be blessed as that is the transformation from bread to body. No Liturgy of the Eucharist = No Communion. Your priest may be able to have pre-blessed Eucharist but you should really just ask.

Is there any particular reason you want to be the only ones? 

Post # 5
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yes, you can.

There is the abridged version for weddings: 2 readings, a gospel, and a homily, then the vows. It is quicker. I am not exactly sure what gets cut, presentation of gifts and peace be with you I guess. But after the 2 readings, gospel, and homily you can take communion. That is what my Fiance and I are doing. We are opening communion up to everyone however. But I am sure that you and and your Fiance can be the only ones. Ask your priest or deacon. I am not sure if that is in alignment with the purpose of communion though. Communion is when you eat and drink the body and blood of christ to be bonded as members of the same community. "bread broken and shared" is what the sacred act is asking you to do in the world. You become the bread broken and shared and do service for other people like Jesus did. So, the priest or deacon would have to decide if it is appropriate for just you and the Fiance to do it. 

But I know for certain that you do not need a full mass to have communion. 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 6
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We asked our priest if we could do this and he said no. His reasoning was that if communion is to be made available to the bride and groom, then it should be made available to everyone present. However, it was his decision; I don’t think that it’s a hard-and-fast rule. Your priest might be okay with it.

Also, if anyone takes it during the ceremony, I don’t think you’ll really save much time by keeping it to just you two, unless you’re expecting a lot of guests to take it too. I think your priest will still have to do the preparatory consecration process during the ceremony (not sure on this). 

An alternative would be for you two to take communion in private before or after the ceremony, if you wanted it to be just you two.

Post # 7
13 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am pretty sure you can do that, by Catholic standards. Within the tabernacle there should be some previously transubstantiated Eucharist that you and your fiancee could have. Explain to your Priest why it is important to you that you and your fiancee take the Eucharist and I am sure you will be in the clear.

Post # 8
29 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

If you are not doing full Mass, I would not suggest doing communion just for you two.  You could do a short ceremony, but still allow communion for all.   I would imagine that if there are strict Catholic guests, they many be offended that communion was not offered if you and your fiance took it, as communion is considered sacred for the purpose of the community there being bonded by the Body and Blood of Christ.  You could shoot for a shortened Mass (there is a version for weddings) but you should keep Communion for everyone who wants to participate.  It really doesn’t take that long………the full Mass is what takes forever!

Post # 9
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Definitely talk to your priest! I am of the opinion that you cannot have communion without the mass. Our church and our destination church offer the Simple Ceremony (no communion) and the Mass Ceremony (communion).

If you’re short on time, don’t sing a lot. Singing prolongs a mass. (Then, you won’t have to pay for a Cantor.)

Post # 10
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hopefully I can help clear the confusion a bit here.

In order to have communion, there must be a mass.  What occurs during mass is what’s called the consecration of the host (turning bread into body).  The mass draws to light and our minds the sacrifice made by GOD so that we may have life.  The form is to have the consecration at the altar in preparation for us to receive.  So to receive the gift without having the remembrance of the sacrifice, is to take away from the purpose/reason why we have communion to begin with.

You may talk to your Priest, but I believe that without the mass, you may not be able to receive communion during the ceremony.



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