(Closed) Can I / how do I ask him to pay more?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This is his wedding and he just as much responible for the cost as you. Tell him you need him to pay it as you can’t afford it. This is also the perfect timing for you guys to sit down and talk about finances going forward.

Post # 4
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should really sit down with him and talk about finances. This is his wedding too; I definitely don’t think the burden should be on you.

Post # 7
227 posts
Helper bee

I wouldn’t be embarassed to ask. It does sound like you’ve put in everything you can, and if you’re going to be married, sometimes you’re going to need to ask each other for help. It sounds like making this wedding special is important to him, too, so I don’t think £400 is too much to ask from him. Just be honest with him. He loves you and wants the day to be special! In the grand scheme, £400 is not a big thang. 


Good luck!

Post # 9
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Are you combining finances after the wedding? If so, this should be a non-issue. Just casually tell him that x amount of money is due on x date, and it has to come from his account because you don’t have it.

Post # 11
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly, weding expenses are mutual expenses. Some of the things you describe are your choice (hair and makeup and trials) but others should not be on you like paying for his nice (FMIL’s granddaughter)’s dress. I also think you should not feel guilty about asking him to cover weding expenses it’s not like you are forceing him to have a wedding.

Post # 13
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t understand…have you not asked him to pay ANYTHING for the wedding to this point? If that’s the case, then you should NOT have to pay him back…it’s both your wedding. THere’s no reason you don’t BOTH contribute to it?

Post # 15
2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The man is going to be your husband. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed because you need his help for 400 pounds. I don’t even think you need to pay him back as you have your entire lives to give and take throughout your relationship. Don’t feel bad, jus be honest with him, I’m sure he’ll understand.

Post # 16
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Cash000:  I completely agree. I would not throw in the “I’ll pay you back” part when talking to him about this.

I would say Fiance and I are paying for this 60/40 but that is because I make more money than he does.

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