Post # 31
No need to invite anyone that you are not close with.
When I was engaged and my mother tried to hijack our wedding, she wanted to invite everyone and their brother. I didn’t want certain extended family members at my wedding because they were very unkind to me for a long time.
Now that we are renewing our vows next year, I am only inviting the cousins whom I have a relationship with.
Post # 32
Absolutely. My daughter and SIL only invited those they have regular contact with, so that meant 6 of 8 aunts/uncles (only 2 attended), and 6 of 9 1st cousins (2 attended). In hindsight, we could have saved some of those invitations for others.
Post # 33
I have 95 first cousins – mom is one of 13 and dad is one of 12. While our families are all pretty close, there are some older cousins I definitely don’t know as well. We don’t have our guest list completely set yet, but I’m guessing a few of those older cousins won’t be invited – or at least not their kids, too, or our guest list will be humongous (500+) and we just can’t afford all of that. Anyone I’m close or somewhat close to will definitely get an invite.
Post # 34
I have first cousins I’m not inviting. We are so far apart in age (I’m the youngest child of two youngest children, you can imagine how it is being the baby) that I never developed a relationship with some of them. Sure, we saw each other at holidays but since I graduated high school, went to college, went to grad school… there’s been little to no interaction with some of them. I am also limited on attendance at my venue. Sure, some of the cousins have been offended, but you know… The cousins who were offended were the ones who sent me some Jesus-y pamphlets for my college graduation after they KNEW I converted to Judaism. So, I’m not sorry.
It’s your wedding, and if anyone loves you any less for not inviting people you barely know, then they don’t need to be in your life.
Post # 35
Ah! I answered YES when I should have answered NO. My answer is different for the subject question and the poll question. So, my official poll answer is “no”. If that helps you decipher the poll results…