- 6 years ago
I am nearly in tears.
My mom is dead set on me not inviting any of the members of my father’s family to my wedding. I simply cannot do that. There are people that I do not speak to on a regular basis, that I have had fallen outs with (and so has my mom), that I did extend an invitation (STD) to out of necessity. I just wanted to pick my battles where this wedding was concerned, you know? I am trying to be mature and level-headed, as best I can. A simple little argument or disagreement with a loved one, once upon a time, is not enough to exclude them if we’ve gotten past those issues.
Long story short, tonight my mom found out that I plan to invite certain relatives she doesn’t like (pretty much all of them).
She completely flipped the freak out! What did she think, that I just wasn’t going to invite anyone?!
My great-aunt is literally dying of cancer. There is probably no way she will make it to the wedding, and if she does, I will be more than happy that she will have some good last memories to share with her family. My mom is pissed that I invited that whole leg of the family, though. Years ago, a falling out occured between my mom, my great-aunt, and my second cousin. My mom is still holding on to it. I am not going to hold a grudge against a dying woman.
But, even rationalizing that these people probably won’t be able to come to the wedding did not calm my mother down. She was yelling in my ear (on the phone)about how she can’t believe how much I am stressing HER. That this is HER day, just as much as it is mine, because she “gave birth to me”, and if she doesn’t want these people at my wedding then I should respect her wishes. She even said that she is the most important person at the wedding, next to me, and above my Fiance, etc., etc.
I don’t know what to do, but I officially feel like my whole wedding is ruined. To top things off, my mom won’t stop posting very rude statuses on FB about how she doesn’t want people “crashing her daughter’s wedding”, and “No invite, don’t come!” That is SO freaking rude! I would NEVER post that! She is going to cause rifts between me and my relatives doing this.
After my mom threw her tantrum, she told me she was coming to take Fiance and I out to dinner. So, we’re getting ready to go eat with her and future step-dad. I hope we can talk things out. I plan to tell her to stop the FB posts and to chill out on the guest list thing. Wish me luck!