(Closed) Can I just have bridesmaids no maid of honor?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
4652 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am having 6 Bridesmaids and No Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 18
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Six bridesmaids? That’s crazy considering I am having none. I have to many sisters (4) and to many good friends to choose and I don’t want that many.

However, you can do whatever you want. It’s your wedding, and not having a Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t mess with anything.

Post # 19
2582 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hi Happily,

I also have 4 bridesmaids and couldn’t pick a Maid/Matron of Honor.  I told them they could each pick a typical Maid/Matron of Honor duty they like the best and that would be their thing (one friend is the party planner, another one is more excited about shopping with me, etc)

Enjoy 🙂

Post # 21
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i had our 3 sisters in my Bridal Party, 2 mine, one his.  I couldn’t pick between my two sisters, and didn’t want his to feel left out, so i just didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor.  I also didn’t have a bachelorette party or bridal shower and the Maid/Matron of Honor often takes the lead on those.  They’ll just have to share the responsibility if you choose to have one.

Post # 22
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2011



My sister-in-law did not have a maid of honor. instead there were 5 of us bridesmaids. In terms of responsibilities before the big day, somehow it all just worked – we all communicated well via e-mail regarding the bach party, shower, etc. Someone did sort of “take the lead” (her oldest friend) which was helpful. For lining up for the ceremony, we all lined up by height (on the groom’s side too). It made for great symmatry in the pictures!


I do have a maid of honor, but something that might be helpful to you is I am having the girls line up (and groomsmen) in the order of how long I have known them. So the person I have known the longest is closest to me and so on.


Hope that is helpful!

Post # 23
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can do whatever you want! Just make sure the officiant knows one of their name’s and its correct spelling so it can be put on the marriage licence under “witness”

Post # 24
617 posts
Busy bee

I was in a wedding with no Maid/Matron of Honor and I have to say, it can be done… but it is tricky. What ended up happening was that I through the Shower and Bachelorette (which I was thrilled to do, but they cost me quite a bit of money) and then the bride picked another girl to stand next to her and sign the liscense. All the guests just assumed she was the Maid/Matron of Honor. I felt like I did all the hard work and spent the money that comes with being a Maid/Matron of Honor and she got to have the special moment after having done nothing. My feelings were hurt.

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