- 12 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I’ve always been known to let things go, and I want to be by my side for my fiance at all times.. but this tension has put me at a breaking point to where I’m even questioning trying any more with her.
Of course I look forward, and think… eventually its going to have to stop… I just don’t know if i can be forgiving or forgetting anymore… or even if its worth it, and just chalk it up that this woman hates my guts, move forward with my husband and be happy?
She took a 360 the day we got engaged. She was always nice to me, but literally THE DAY we got engaged, she turned into someone completely different. Since our engagement, It has just been a downward spiral of either.. she either has no common sense or compassion for anyone else other then herself.. Or…shes playing games….. and the more things go on, the more in my heart i feel its the latter.
She told half of our friends and most of mr.cupcakes family that we were engaged… in AUGUST… we got engaged in the middle of October. So needless to say, when we got back from our vacation when he proposed, it felt like every person we ran into already knew we were engaged…. when all we anted to do was call our friends and family and tell them the good news… I was crushed.
She is always doing things that we specifically ask her not to. ie – mr. cupcake is really trying to lose some weight.. he told her that. The day we invite her over to our house for dinner, she brings a box of cookies and a solid chocolate football…
Anytime mr.cupcake has joked in front of people with her around.. calling me his wife or something or i’ll do the same.. she nastily interupts – HES NOT YOUR HUSBAND, YET!
Similar things have consistantly gone on.. but my breaking point was her calling last weekend to say she found a dress to wear to the wedding… she sent Mr. cupcake a photo of it.. and it was exactly the same color as my wedding dress.
She claimed up and down the sales people chose it for her. But after calling the store to confirm and see if they had made a mistake, the sales women said, had they looked in my file exactly the way MOG said, there was 100% No way they would’ve chosen that dress, and explained in great detail why.
When Mr. cupcake called her to tell her it was not going to work out and she would have to find another, she threw a fit, got his grandmother involved, and had her throw a fit defending her that the dress she chose was fine, and that it is TOO hard to find another dress in her size (shes a larger woman).
I really dont ever want to talk to her or see her for a long long long time. And I feel like half the things she doing are intentional.. and now I’m worried sick about our wedding day. 🙁
I just don’t know if its worth it anymore to try to be nice to her. or even associate with her, but at the same time, she is my husbands mother and i feel to a degree im obligated. Sorry for the vent.