(Closed) Can I kick someone out if they show up?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

post a guard (show them photos if they’re unfamiliar with how she looks) and tell them to remove her from the premises if she shows up.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have your Fiance talk to his friend and make sure that they don’t go.  Make it clear that she is not, under any circumstances, still invited, and that the other groomsmen will have to be watching out for her.  His friend hopefully can talk the crazy wife out of crashing!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

@strawbs:  Agreed.  

 

Just like assigning a babysitter to a drunk to ensure they don’t embarass themselves or others at a wedding– get someone to prevent her from doing the same. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can’t believe this guy just let his wife tell him what to do. That would be the day! But seriously I am worried about the same thing, but its my stepdad, so I am just having security through the person out if they show up.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

You should warn the venue not to let them in if they show up.  For sure. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Assign someone the responsibility of dealing with her if she shows up and make sure the venue is aware of it because they may be able to help.  You should be able to have her trespassed by the police if she is not invited and asked to leave but refuses to do so.  Just make sure you have someone else to deal with it so you can enjoy your day.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Have your Fi speak to them, make it clear they aren’t welcome and the venue has been warned ahead of time, let them know if they choose to show up and trespass they will be escorted off the property.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with PP’s that you should talk to the staff at your venue and make sure that they know she is not allowed in. Make sure you give them a photo. That’s what they’re there for…to handle these things for you and make sure you can enjoy yourself instead of worrying!

If you don’t have staff at your venue, then definitely tag one or two people you trust to be on alert for her that can turn her away, preferably larger men who can be more intimidating. You can instruct them to say that they are not part of the final headcount, and therefore there are no seats or food for them.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, you are allowed to ask someone to leave if they show up and are not on your guest list.

Post # 14
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a friend tell me that her friend is getting married in the port on a cruise ship. They check your ID (and something else I can’t remember) before you can board the ship, just as protocol. I thought it was a GENIUS way to keep unwanted guests away! Haha!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

That sucks. I lost my best friend this way. But stand your ground. You didn’t pay all that money just to have all your memories of that day be of HER. That’s not how you want to remember marrying the love of your life!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Does your Fiance want him at the wedding? Because if he does, I say deal with it and let him have his Best Friend there, regardless of the reason why he cannot be in the wedding.  

i guess it also depends if they are invited or not.  I would assume if I wasn’t in a wedding anymore that I would still be invited but who knows.  I sent invitations to my wedding party so technically they and their SO/date is invited whether they drop out of my wedding party or not.

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