(Closed) Can I leave the "M" out of the RSVP cards?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think about the "M" on RSVP Cards
    It's okay to leave it out. : (69 votes)
    84 %
    Definitely keep it in! : (13 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Yes, you can leave it out. I promise no fanciness ninja will come throat-chop you. And I agree, it is confusing.

    Post # 4
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I had the same dilemma as you and I ultimately decided to keep the M in. Without it, there’s just a random blank line that goes across your RSVP and hopefully, people will figure out it’s the name line and fill it in.

    With the M line, at least it calls their attention to it and hopefully it will jar them into thinking about what is supposed to go there.

    Post # 5
    463 posts
    Helper bee

    Leave it out! I don’t think it will cause confusion for those who are familiar with it – everyone has to fill out forms with blank lines without the “M” all the time.

    Post # 7
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Are we to assume then that you are using the most traditional of layouts / wording…




    accepts _____


    regrets _____


    The favour of your reply is requested by July 26th

    === === ===

    And I wish you well thru this process… it is depressing how many people can’t figure out what they are supposed to do with RSVP Cards despite them coming with Self-Addressed Stamped Envelopes.  This truly is the biggest headache for Wedding Planning IMO.


    Post # 8
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I think it’s fine to leave it out, but of course you run the risk of someone not knowing what to do with it.  Perhaps replace it with “Names of those attending” or if that’s too lengthy (probably hehe) “Name(s)”?

    Post # 9
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    TO @MrsBeck: you said,

     Ahhh what to do what to do… Maybe I can leave it out and number the cards on  the back so that if someone does forget to fill it out I still know who it is!

    That you want to do for sure !!


    Post # 10
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Nobody knows what to do with the M anyway.

    Actually, nobody knows how to mail the damn card back, haha.

    Emily Post certainly had a high bar for the human race ;-).

    Post # 13
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I left it out and replaced it with Name(s). I don’t care if people think that was the wrong way to do it. Well, okay I kind of do, but I didn’t know what the M meant until I looked it up. I feel like it’s such a little thing, it shouldn’t matter. 

    Post # 14
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsBeck:  I took it out at first, and thought it looked silly.

    Post # 15
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @MrsBeck:  Why not just “Name(s)”?  That’s what we did.

    Post # 16
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Ok course anytime one strays outside the norms of Etiquette (making a style up) there can be issues… (this tried and true stuff is around for a reason… it works)

    BUT here is what I’d do… given the formality that you’ve chosen (with two lines to write on)




    and ___________


    This would work, considering you have a space to fill in the numbers

    ie    2   Seats have been reserved in your honour

    or    4   Seats have been reserved in your honour



    And you have also a spot for them to initialize.

    That IMO will look a lot better than just NAMES…

    People will figure it out.


    The AND Line then works if it is

    Mr Bob Brown

    and Ms Sue Black


    OR if it is

    Mr & Mrs Bob Brown

    and Family

    I doubt you’ll have any issue with the single invitees once you write in the numbers.

    Hope this helps,




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