Post # 1
I need some advice. I’ve started to get some gifts in the mail from bed bath and beyond (so presumably from one of our registries!) from people who have RSVPd that they will not be able to make it to my bridal shower. My shower is on May 27th, so a little over 2 weeks away.
I need some advice on what to do in this situation. My fiance thinks I should take the gift to the shower so I’ll have something extra to open and not open it early. We opened the bbb shipping box so we could see the tag on the inside that says who it is from, but the actual gift is in wedding wrapping paper. I really really really really want to open it now! And the excuse I’ve been telling my fiance is that if I open it now I can write the thank you right away. If I wait until after the shower it will be a much longer time between when they gave us the gift and when we send a thank you.
What have you guys done (or what are you planning on doing) when you’ve gotten gifts before the shower? Open them at home? Or take them to the shower to open?
Post # 3
I have the same issue. I checked with my mom on who was coming and knew that some friends of mine weren’t able to come so I opened those up.
Post # 4
I like the idea of opening them at the shower, kind of like including those people who couldn’t be there… you get to take a pic of the gift and you can send that to them with the ty since they missed the shower. Plus everyone gets to see what you got. But the wait is so agonizing.
Post # 5
I just had one of my two showers this weekend and I was told that it’s best to open them before, because usually you recieve so many packages at the shower that it’s in the best intrest of the time of your guests to open them early.
Post # 6
I’m in the exact same situation, and I’ve decided to wait – I agree with the PP who said it’s kind of like including the giver in the shower. But my shower will be small (no more than 20 people, I think), so time isn’t much of an issue.
Post # 7
Also, I have to ask because of our username – are you a fellow Nittany Lion?
Post # 8
i would open them. That’s what I did. If they’re not going to be there, what’s the point? And I would hate to have packages sitting in my house..I would want to put it away ASAP. Because once you recieve all of those gifts, it’s not fun putting it all away!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I took my early gifts to the shower. I opened the box just enough to get the packing slip, so I was able to send a “pre-thank you” e-mail- “Just wanted to let you know your gift arrived- looking forward to opening it at the shower.” Like LadyBear, I felt it was including those women in the shower (plus three more gifts didn’t add that much time)
Post # 10
Have your invitations gone out? If so, it may be your wedding gift, which I say you can open. If not, I would save it for the shower.
Post # 11
I opened all the gift wraps/gift bags at my shower. Then waiting till after the wedding before opening anything to use it.
Post # 12
I opened the new stuff right away and started using it 🙂 I figured if I was violating etiquette in the privacy of my own home it wouldn’t matter.
Post # 12
I’m not a bride but was upset to learn that the shower gift I sent to be opened at the shower had already been opened. I would not have sent to the bride if I knew that would be the case. We are a small family and the shower was a plane flight away and I couldn’t make it. My only way of having a presence there was to send a gift and I paid $25 extra to have it there in time for the shower. I has heartbroken…