Post # 1
Hi Bees, advice needed.
I am wondering, if a movie takes a killer song and turns it into a funeral song, can I still play it at my wedding?
I’m sure we are all familiar with Bette Midler and ‘Wind Beneath my Wings’ from the movie Beaches, famously played during the death scene, where I’ll admit, I always turn into a blubbering mess.
So, I can’t remember one word of that song that relates to death, but there are reasons for it and reasons against.
I want to play it for the Father/Daughter dance but with my Mum instead. She is my hero and the wind beneath my Wings.
But, my Dad died when I was little, My Mum raised me and my sister and is absolutely amazing. I am worried my guests might think that during the traditional Father/Daughter dance that I am paying some sort of morbid homage to my Dad, when I’m not, it’s all for my Mum.
Me and my Mum must have seen beaches dozens of times together, the movie and the song mean a lot to both of us, which is why I want it to be that song.
Now, I’m not saying I really care if my guests think it’s for my Dad and I’m being weird, but I don’t want to make things awkward either.
I am stuck in this dilemma because of a movie! But, a movie that means a lot to me and my Mum.
Any advice at all… please!
This topic was modified 3 years ago by sandy85.
Post # 2
It isn’t what I would think of at all! I would see it as a mother daughter shebang.
Post # 3
Auto correct turned funeral into general… bit embarrassing!
Edit worked… yay!
Post # 4
i would see no issue with that. i think the song is popular enough not to be inextricably linked with that one scene.
Post # 5
Absolutely use it. I didn’t see the movie, so I had no idea about the scene, although I’ve heard the song numerous times. My daughter considered it, for her father-daughter dance. He’s fought an incurable/untreatable muscle wasting disease, for almost 10 years, and the word “hero” is so appropriate for him. (I’ve found they don’t play the entire song, for the parent dances, since most have lyrics that repeats, so it may not last as long, as the original).
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
andy85: its your wedding – do what you want! if its meaningful to you then play it.
i walked up the aisle to ‘the ice dance’ from Edward Scissorhands – in the movie it plays just before Edward slashes Kims hand open… not a moment that screams wedding – but the piece of music is stunning. im sure NOONE will be thinking about what movie scene your father daughter dance is from. if you love it – have it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
sandy85: My partner sings that to me when I need cheering up (he’s tone deaf so it is funny in an excrutiating corny way), it’s more than a scene in a film I think. The words are simple and would resonate with a lot of people.
Post # 8
sandy85: I don’t see a single thing wrong with it! Funny enough, my best friend always references that song to her mom.
My father also died when I was young and my mom is giving me away. I chose this song by Carrie Underwood. Are you and your mom literally dancing together? I suppose that’s what we’re doing too but I don’t want it to be awkward!! I understand ALL your concerns!
Post # 9
I’ve never seen Beaches, I know it’s from the movie but I didn’t know it’s a funeral song. I think it’s a beautiful tribute song and would be lovely for you and your mom.
Post # 10
sandy85: I didn’t see the movie so I wouldn’t have thought of death at all. Like a PP said I think the song is popular enough on its own.
Post # 11
I actually don’t think of movies at all when I hear songs (unless the song was made for that specific movie, like magic carpet ride or something). Or if it was super recent like “Let it go, LET IT GOOOOO” lol
Post # 12
Rappig: Ha ha, and what a shebang!
bluelagon: That’s what I was thinking too
PABride: He certainly is a hero, sounds lovely!
weird_bunny: My hubby wants highway to hell by ACDC as my walk down the aisle… um, no! Nit I love that piece from Edward Scissorhands
Taiki: That sounds so sweet!
BurlapnLace: I will check out the song, thanks. I was thinking of having a dance with her, although I am 5’6″ and Mum is 4’11” so might have to get her some heels!
MsGinkgo: Tribute song, I like that
playdohpants: Thanks, that helps a lot, you made me spit my coffee with the let it go!! Ha ha
Thanks so much everyone! Your advice has really helped, the song remains!