Post # 32
Thank you for all the replies ladies!
Yesterday, DH sent me a message while I was at work saying that he hadn’t organised anything for my birthday because he has been sick and can we postpone celebrations until Saturday. I said sure (it was pretty clear before this nothing was going to be done!)
It’s my birthday today, and this morning I got up and went to the gym, and as I was getting ready for work he groggily started waking up. I stood there staring at him for a bit and he kept asking why I was looking at him.. I said never mind and continued getting ready. A few minutes later he is like “‘oh, its your birthday, happy birthday’. I said thanks and he pulled me to him and said he wasn’t going to say anything because he knows I have expectations for my birthday, and this isn’t it.. so he was going to wait until saturday.
I’m not upset anymore, I mean really.. its just my birthday. Its just another day in the year. I do need to drop my expectations. I bought myself a mini gluten free cupcake for after my dinner, and am looking forward to whatever saturday brings.
Post # 34
I understand how you feel. I felt the same way on my first birthday after FH and I got together. The day of, he picked up a card and a movie I wanted on his way home from work and we went out to dinner, came home and watched the movie. I put a lot of thought and effort into doing something nice for him on his birthday, like cooking his favorite meal and making him his favorite cake from scratch, and he waits until the very last minute to do something for me. But it’s just the way he is, and I’ve learned that. But, I also don’t really care about my birthday as much I did a few years ago.
Christmas though, I’m crazy about Christmas.
Post # 35
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Enjoy the cupcake.
Post # 36
I would go to a spa or something and treat myself 😛
I just had my birthday like a month ago which was on monday, and my work was super crap that it ruined the day.
Post # 38
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
I’m very glad that you want to reevaluate your expectations because your husband’s reactions to your expectations are pretty much what I was talking about. He can’t feel good about doing something for you because he knows you expect it and it has to be how you expect it. Then he feels let down and you feel let down when things are done or aren’t better than the year before–or the year before that.
It was good that you got yourself a cup cake, and you should continue to do things to make yourself feel good on your birthday. But only have that expectation of yourself, not others.
And happy be-lated!
Post # 39
I think you should graciously tell him to not worry about it and just get better… he can take you out to an expensive dinner and shower you with gifts in honor of your birthday next week