(Closed) Can I please be a big selfish b!tch for a minute?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 34
4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I understand how you feel. I felt the same way on my first birthday after FH and I got together. The day of, he picked up a card and a movie I wanted on his way home from work and we went out to dinner, came home and watched the movie. I put a lot of thought and effort into doing something nice for him on his birthday, like cooking his favorite meal and making him his favorite cake from scratch, and he waits until the very last minute to do something for me. But it’s just the way he is, and I’ve learned that. But, I also don’t really care about my birthday as much I did a few years ago. 

Christmas though, I’m crazy about Christmas. 

Post # 36
1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013


I would go to a spa or something and treat myself 😛


I just had my birthday like a month ago which was on monday, and my work was super crap that it ruined the day.

Post # 38
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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@dannielle89:  I’m very glad that you want to reevaluate your expectations because your husband’s reactions to your expectations are pretty much what I was talking about. He can’t feel good about doing something for you because he knows you expect it and it has to be how you expect it. Then he feels let down and you feel let down when things are done or aren’t better than the year before–or the year before that.

It was good that you got yourself a cup cake, and you should continue to do things to make yourself feel good on your birthday. But only have that expectation of yourself, not others. 


And happy be-lated!

Post # 39
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you should graciously tell him to not worry about it and just get better… he can take you out to an expensive dinner and shower you with gifts in honor of your birthday next week Wink

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