(Closed) Can I propose to him?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You certainly can, if that’s what you want to do. There are stories floating around the Bee of ladies who have proposed to their fiances. What do you want to propose with? Some have gone with rings, others nice designer watches.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Of course! As the PP said, there have been many successful proposals to men on this board and they all looked super cute. What were you thinking?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sure you can! Is that how you want it to happen? If it is, by all means go for it!

If this is something you WANT him to do, maybe casually bring up proposing to him someday and see how he reacts or ask how he feels about it. Maybe it will get the ball rolling in your favor.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Of course you can!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I honestly believe that it is perfectly fine for women to propose to men! However, there are just 2 questions you must ask yourself; 1) Are you proposing because you want to propose to him or are you proposing because you are tired of waiting for him to propose? 2) Does your SO want to get married? I understand that you 2 are buying a house, which I believe that means you 2 are more than committed, but is he ready for marriage?

If you are proposing because you sincerely want to propose and your SO is ready for marriage..then go for it!!!!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I proposed and got a GREAT response! I think you should if you’re ready! Good luck, it takes alot of strength and courage…I learned alot about myself and it’s a neat perspective on what men go through!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You CAN propose to him, but sometimes I wonder why you would HAVE to? I guess I am just a very analytical person and I would ask myself, why hasn’t he asked me after all these years? Afterall, that’s the traditional thing to do. If you’ve discussed it before, and he has mentioned that it would be cool if you’d ask him, then it’s fine. But IMO if he ain’t asking, he ain’t asking for a reason. You never want to make a man (or woman) feel obligated to say yes because you want them to. Before I’d buy the house, I woud have “the talk” (if you haven’t already), and see what his thoughts are, and if he would even like for you to propose. I was talking to my Fiance the other day about women proposing to men, and he said that he would have been pissed if I had proposed to him! Just something to think about. Hope it all works out! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

As long as you genuinely want to propose and as long as he isn’t adamantly opposed to you popping the question, I say go for it! 😀

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You certainly can!  But I would make sure beforehand that your SO would be comfortable with that.  I’m not necessarily saying to ask him directly if he’d be ok with it, but just based off of his personality and how well you know him, you should be able to get an idea of his stance on proposals initiated by the woman.  Some men are more traditional than others and would prefer the proposal to be their responsibility.  But if you think he’d be comfortable with it, I’d say go ahead whenever you’re ready!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Youre clearly commited to the relationship but what ownership does he have in the commitment if you ask him. how pissed would you be the moment something goes wrong (not saying it will) and he says “well I didn’t ask you, you asked me”. not saying its wrong, just not my style.  

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i thik its ok to propose to him if you guys are on the same page…there are guys who do not want to get married because it changes the logistics of things…I am kind of old fashioned, my fiance proposed to me. I just think it means more when the man does it becasue when a guy has “the one” it feels good knowing that he picked you to be “his one and only”. If I were you, i would mention the idea of getting married, but I would not propse to him…you shouldn’t rush a man into matters like this.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wish the opposite side proposing was more popular. I see nothing wrong with a girlfriend proposing to a boyfriend.

Have at it, and good luck!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Short answer: Yes

 

Long answer: Yes. DO IT! 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yes!  Good luck!

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