Post # 1
My shower is coming up in a few days. I made one of my bridesmaids promise no penis games. She said don’t worry, but a little part of me is worrying. I will not play them, because there’ll be pictures on someone’s facebook for sure, and I’ll not have that happen. Do people play penis games at showers usually or is it mostly bachelorettes? Also, are their any Bees out their who have refused to play a penis game in a shower setting or who plan to refuse if confronted with the situation? I don’t want to be whiny or a stick in the mud, but I think that if I don’t want to play a game about penises in front of a large group of people, that I have that right. Right? Help…
Post # 3
Penis stuff is usually bachelorette not showers…
Post # 4
I hate the whole penis center types things. I’ve never seem them for a shower maybe for a bachlorette but a shower now way! You can refuse and make it crystal care that you will be hurt if they would do that. A shower isn’t the time or place for rowdy games like that anyways.
Post # 5
I’ve never ever ever seen a penis game at a shower, only a bachelorette! You should be fine. 🙂
Post # 6
Personally, I was very clear about NO GAMES at any events related to my wedding. I find them excruciating!
Post # 7
Um, definitely the bachelorette if that type of stuff is going to go down. Showers = moms, MILs, great aunts, etc etc. Not that ladies who fall into that category can’t be raunchy, but bridal showers are definitely more in the “tea and cake” genre of event.
Post # 8
***UPDATE*** It was today… there were NO penis games. I spoke with my mother on the phone last night, and I said “Please, Mom. Promise me there will be no penis games. Please!” I had said this previously when I first found out about the shower, and she had given me a sort of vague answer, something to the effect of “we’ll see, we’ll see” and she chuckled. This time she just laughed, and finally said, “I don’t know what you’re talking about! I’ve never heard of penis games!” Then she admitted, kind of sheepishly, that the reason for her vague response a few days prior was that she had NO IDEA what I could possibly mean by ‘penis games’ and she thought I was stressing over some strange custom that I had read about on ‘the internet’ and didn’t think I was actually concerned that there would be ‘penis games’. So, penis games were absent, and it went pretty well over all, I must say. And, despite my not really wanting a shower, it was kinda nice to see some guests that I wouldn’t see again until the wedding. Kinda made the approaching wedding (just over a month!!!) seem that much more real.
Post # 9
Woo hoo! No penis games! I too am 100% not interested in any of that kind of stuff.
Post # 10
Lol…. What the heck are penis games???? I mean I’ve seen penis paraphenelia at bachelorette parties, but never any games. Sorry this made me giggle.
Post # 11
@Robin_Sparkles: I’ve seen pictures of bachelorette parties where there were cartoon penises that are part of a ‘pin the penis on the dude’ similar to ‘pin the tail on the donkey’. There’s also games, like where one player would anchor a plunger or broomstick or something between their thighs, to be a ‘penis’ and the other player would have to hold a toilet paper roll between their thighs, as the ‘vagina’ and the two players would have to work together without using their hands to put the ‘penis’ into the ‘vagina’. Really funny to watch but I would NOT feel comfortable doing that in a shower setting. Also, I’ve seen pictures on a friend’s facebook of some game where a carrot was tied, dangling between people’s legs and they have to try to lower themselves carefully so that they could stick their carrot penis in a bottle ‘vagina’ that was waiting for them. I kid you not! I realize that these are generally bachelorette party things, but I was concerned that they may be at showers too sometimes.
Post # 12
Whew, OP! I am soooo happy that your friends listened to you and that there were no penis games. I wouldn’t have been interested in doing that either – not to mention that I’m super paranoid about the pictures of me that are put on the internet. Once they’re out there, they’re forever! 🙂
I’m glad you enjoyed your shower stress free.
Post # 13
Glad you didn’t have any penis games 🙂
The last few hens parties I’ve been to, we’ve had a very explicit understanding that what happens on tour, stays on tour – any “bad” photos etc only went on FB if they were visible ONLY to the people at the party, not for all the world to see.
99% of guests abided by that & it was fine. Except for co-worker J’s party – another woman S at the party is one of these people that tells tall tales – S was pawing at the stripper (young enough to be her son), but Mon morning in the office she was telling the world about how badly behaved everyone else was. Luckily no-one listens to this woman!