(Closed) Can I register for SEX?

posted 10 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We’ve had a drop for a while. I actually asked him if he concerned about the lack of sex once we get married? He said yes. We had a great talk full of tears .. ok, lots of tears. But, in the end, it brought a new spunk back to our relationship that was missing. I leave him love notes on the mirror in our bathroom each morning, he tells me everyday how I make him feel. Talk to him. It did wonders for us.

Post # 4
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

No, we really didn’t have that problem.  However, I would be a little less concerned about the change in frequency of sex (which frankly is going to happen from time to time) and more concerned about whether or not you can talk about it.  Why don’t you just ask him what’s going on? Tell him you’re concerned.  Are you getting any premarital counseling?  If not, maybe that would be a good idea.  It’s definately not the last touchy problem you’re going to have to be able to communicate about, so it’s a good time to start practicing.  If you don’t already have some good communication skills with each other, some help developing them would be a good idea.

Post # 5
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127 posts
Blushing bee

Yes, we are having that problem! The stress of trying to finish school + wedding planning + applying ot grad school + working out 6x/week for the wedding is exhausting. I feel so bad turning him down but I just want to sleep!!!! what do i do?!?!

Post # 6
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38 posts
Newbee

We haven’t had this problem, but we are actually planning on doing the opposite.  None for the next two months until the wedding – it’s kind of crazy thinking about it, but we’ll see if we can make it.

But on the other ends of things.  I have heard people say that every now and then, even when you are super tired, doing it anyways can actually be energizing is our allow it to be.  I’m not necessarily talkin every night, but a little sumthin’ sumthin’ once or twice a week at least wouldn’t hurt. Plus, you have a reason to show off all that hard work in the gym!

Post # 7
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64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Yes, ever since we got engaged actually.  We’ve talked about it some but it didn’t really get resolved.  The early part of wedding planning was really stressful for me and I gained weight – quite a bit of it actually – and I think that’s had some to do with it.  Not the weight itself as much as my own lack of energy and dissatisfaction with my appearance.  I’m working out now and hopefully with my energy coming back and the pounds coming off I’ll be able to entice him more. 

Thanks for posting this because I thought it was just me and I was too embarassed to ask my friends.  Hang in there and talk about it and hopefully it will improve!

Post # 8
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

1)talk about it with him.

2)Plan a surprise for him.

Be in a bubble bath with candles when he comes home. Laying on your bed with sexy lingerie on, or just plainly turn him on and see where it gets you.

We didn’t really have that problem because our planning was super quick.

Post # 9
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Best post title ever!!!

Yes, I think this is normal, what with pre-event stress and all.  I think the key is to make time for it, which may sound silly, but is sometimes necessary.  And:

1) Get off of your computer

2) Give/receive a massage

3) See what happens 

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