- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I come from a highly dysfunctional family that I have worked through any issues with (ok so it took therapy but hey it helped!) and I maintain contact with each and every one of them. I am the only member of my family that everyone talks to. Which can be a bit of a pain but I deal with it and most of the time they ignore each other.
Well not sure if it is the holidays or the upcoming wedding but OMG they are coming out of the woodwork!
It started with my mother and sister getting into a fight around Christmas (this happens every year) and I smoothed them both down because my mom decided to put me in the middle of it . . . more to come on that later
My father (btw who has been married to my mother for 53 years – the 43 years that I know have been miserable) mentioned that he did not want to come to my wedding because it would be about me not him, he does not like weddings AND he and my mother do not get along and it would stress them.
last night my sister (who is 53 btw) called me in hysterics about the fight that she and Mom are having and has now added the complication of a long lost great niece of mine that has entered the family picture (my sisters granddaughter through a 1 night stand of her oldest son) My mother thinks she is fascinating and my sister is jealous that my mom is interested in this child and has brought up everything bad my Mom did to her and her two sons that she did not even raise. I told my sister we were all adults, including her two sons, and that she needed to build a bridge and stop expecting the perfect all american family because it was too late for that.
then this morning my SIL of one of my brothers who is having issues with my other brother emailed me – well he has lots of problems and has had them for many years. She wanted to know some fairly long buried family secrets that will just cause more problems because the tension is causing grief in her marriage to my brother. I told her ignorance is bliss and that knowing the history would cause her husband more problems and did she really want that??
Now probably neither of my Brothers will come to the wedding, my father will most likely show up and gripe about it and my Mom and sister will have a huge fight at the wedding using me as the excuse and I am ok with it but could I have a bit of a break before the actual day??
Thanks for letting me ramble and vent. I just feel sometimes that I have the most messed up family and I know there are worse out there as well as some good old fashioned cyber hugs!!
I am on cloud 9 about my wedding and my kids and my life and just wish they would give me a little break to enjoy all of the fabulous that I do have 🙁