(Closed) Can I Send One Invitation to Three Housemates

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well the proper etiquette is to send each person 18 and older their own invite + guest. Obviously, there’s many different brides with all different situations, so that doesn’t work for everyone.

Post # 4
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Proper etiquette is to send one to each adult. I care less and less about what’s proper, though, and more and more about what will offend individuals. If you are fine sending only one, and are sure they won’t care, send one. If you’re inviting them with dates, though, this could be confusing.

Post # 6
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

If its a group invite and they dont get dates, make it a cute group addressing a la "The lovely ladies of 123 Smith Street".  Yes, Emily Post would say they each get one, but if you dont feel these women would care so much about Ms Post, go for fun.

Post # 7
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I like mdarrah’s idea 🙂 That way it is less obvious that they aren’t getting dates too.

Post # 8
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Yeah, I had a similar situation and sent one to (not their real names) "Sarah, Mary, Jane, and all relevant gentlemen," (or something like that) as two had long term BFs and one I wasn’t sure of. But we were all college students and I hand delivered it, I dunno. I did see that they ended up putting it on their fridge, so I think an invite to each would have been unnecessary — one would have gone on the fridge and the others probably would have been either tossed or lost in the piles of paperwork college students tend to accumulate. 🙂

So I’d say just do what you think they would be comfortable with… if none are etiquette mavens or pretty-paper-hoarders, just do the one.

Post # 9
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My friends have done that. It’s totally fine.

Post # 10
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Proper etiquette is to send each person over 18 their own invite UNLESS they’re a couple. I would say try and think to yourself if they seem like sticklers for etiquette, or if they’d be offended. Or you could always put three invites in the envelope, to strike a compromise — or just three RSVP cards (handwrite their name on the back) in one invite.

Post # 11
159 posts
Blushing bee

if they threw you a party i would send one each.  they must be somewhat invested in the event and might like their own invites as keepsakes.  

Post # 12
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would send a separate invite to each person. It seems like you would only do the mass invite for children or couples.

Post # 13
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would send the invites to each individual person… they are all grownups treat them as such, especially since they threw you an engagement party.

Post # 14
27 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have a couple of very close friends who are roomates. They specifically asked if I would send each their own invite that way they would not argue over who actually got to keep it for rememberace purposes. So that is what I did.

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