Post # 1
We are working with a pretty tight budget and our family is huge. With just our family and wedding party, we are inviting 120 people. That doesn’t leave a lot of room for inviting friends. Almost all of our family is out of town and we want to see how many people are going to make it from out of town and then invite as many friends as we can to reach our number. How could I do this in a classy way?
Also, I did see similar posts where people said to send invites out 8 weeks before to family and then see how many “no’s” you get and send invites out to friends 6 weeks before. That sounds like a good plan, but what do you do with save the dates? Do you just skip them all together?
Post # 3
If you’re not having a destination wedding or a lot of out of towners, the you can generally skip the STD’s.
We had a similar problem, we needed a head count so we could plan which wedding we were having, so we put out “feelers” to see who would be able to make it.
Post # 4
Skip the STD’s if you aren’t having a Destination Wedding. If 90% of your guest list is from oot then you should send them out. If not, skip them. You can send the invites out 8 weeks in advance and then wait for your RSVP’s to come through. Maybe set your RSVP deadline date 5 weeks from the date? Then you can send out your second list.
Post # 5
Sure there are alot of threads on the A list and the B list. I was looking, but couldn’t find, the thread about this. I think they sent out some early to the people out of town they thought were questionable then sent out the second set once they heard back.
Post # 6
We sent out STD’s to those people that were on the A list only. Invitations for the A list (which were family members and close friends) went out 10 weeks before the wedding and we requested RSVP’s 6 weeks prior. (I realize this seems early, but you have to do it if you plan to send out a B list). We mailed out invitations to those on the B list (which were mainly aquaintances and co-workers) soon after that. Our RSVP date was 2 weeks before the wedding giving them about 3 weeks to respond. This gave us about a week to track down those that didn’t reply in time and contact the reception venue. It worked out pretty well!
Post # 7
@newbride0827: Although my wedding was in Vancouver and all of my family is from BC I considered the wedding destination as everyone pretty much had to travel.
We skipped Save-The-Date Cards all together, cause honestly….I dont want a STD and then an invite..i just want the invite to tell me what i need to know! *laugh* So we sent out of invites out in Feb for our July wedding. (5 months early) and gave an RSVP deadline of march. As no’s came in we sent out more…this way the “B” list were still getting their invites months before the wedding and didnt feel B List and we had solid numbers by May 🙂