(Closed) Can I Surprise my MOH whose Bday is the Day Before My Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
32 posts
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would do a private girls thing the night before your wedding! It would be nice to destress with your friend! Treat her to some TLC girl time and give her a super personal thoughtout gift that expresses how much she means to you. Doing this on her actual birthday and the day before your big day will show how much she means to you and will probably help you ease your mind about the next day. I know girl time always makes me feel better. Just an hour or two. Maybe some spa time? Massages? Or you could do brunch before? Just something special… 


If she is showy though, the DJ thing may be cute. It  depends on her personality too. (: 


I hope this helps. 

Post # 3
372 posts
Helper bee

I attended a wedding a couple of years ago on my birthday and as they were friends of my fiance I didn’t even think they knew. However they did, got the MC to announce it and get me up to say a few impromptu words and they brought me out a slice of cake with a candle. Was very sweet and totally unexpected considering I was just a guest. The wedding was a 26hr flight from where we live (overseas wedding) so maybe thats why.

Post # 4
23592 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s such a wonderful idea to surprise your Maid/Matron of Honor just to let her know that you’re still thinking of her while in the middle of your wedding planning!

Post # 5
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I would definitely do something to acknowledge her Bday. Doesn’t have to be over the top, but maybe drinks and dinner the night before. It would be appreciated.

Post # 6
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Is your rehearsal dinner the night before? I think a surprise birthday cake would be so nice!

Post # 9
372 posts
Helper bee

TBH I was a bit shocked especially when the birthday song came on but it was very sweet and thoughtful and I will admit I did feel a little bit special 🙂

Post # 10
7879 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would die of embarrassment if someone acknowledged my birthday at their wedding- weddings are soooo much more important! But maybe that’s just me. You know your Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 11
1169 posts
Bumble bee

I would do something special for her the day of her Bday. Get her a gift card for a spa service that she can use for after the wedding. Put in a bday card so that she knows it is not part of the bridesmaids gifts. At the rehearsal dinner, see if they can bring her a special dessert with a candle.

I think it would be really sweet to show her that you are not forgetting not just a birthday, but a milestone birthday, in the midst of wedding planning.

Post # 12
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree that a cake or something would be nice. It is nice that you are thinking of her. 

Post # 13
530 posts
Busy bee

MsIsopropyl:  I was in a friends wedding (indian wedding) and my birthday was 2 days before her wedding, and the day before they had the mehendi celebration, she completely surprised me with a birthday cake at the Mehendi which was really unexpected but was very sweet of her. I know it was her day (days lol) but it was a nice little gesture I completely appreciated! 

Post # 14
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe surprise her with a cake at the rehearsal dinner? 

Post # 15
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My sister, who is also my MOH’s, birthday is also the day before my wedding.  I am having a bridal luncheon that day and we are getting a cake and surprising her with it there.  She would not want a big to do or a lot of attention drawn to her, but will appreciate it being acknowledged that it is her birthday with our friends (other bridesmaids).

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