(Closed) Can I Surprise my MOH whose Bday is the Day Before My Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
10 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

One of my girls birthday is two days before the wedding so we’re getting pampered and getting our nails done, then doing dinner and some drinks for her. It’s a way for us to chill before the big day and get to hang out! 

Maybe something like that? I know you’re stressed for time but she’ll appreciate that she gets some recognition! Or if she isn’t shy, like you said get the DJ to announce her birthday and get the crowd to sing her Happy Birthday with a cake and a candle for her 🙂 Something she’ll always remember! 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  MrsNutTree.
Post # 17
163 posts
Blushing bee

MsIsopropyl:  And I thought I was the only one! My brother’s birthday is the night before my wedding. Fortunately, he’s older and really could care less, but at the rehearsal dinner, I plan on getting a huge cake. I figured my fiance’ and I could make a quick but nice speach to wish him a happy birthday, surprise him with cake, and that way we don’t take away from his birthday 🙂


I’m sure you’ll find a way to honor her. And if anything, I’m also 100% confident she understands.

Post # 18
3875 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

eeniebeans:  Agreed x10000

MsIsopropyl:  My sister (MOH)’s birthday and my best friend (BM)’s birthdays are the day after and two days after my wedding. To be honest, it isn’t even an issue with them. I know birthdays are special, but for women in their 30s and mid-20s, neither of them really make big deals about them anymore. I’m going to be paying for their hair and makeup ($150 total) as a birthday gift that is a surprise the morning of. I’ll let them know privately, away from the other bridesmaids and have already worked it out with my MUA.

Post # 19
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I went to a wedding that was the day before the best man’s birthday. The couple made an announcement and gave him a special cupcake with a candle and everyone sang happy birthday. It was fun.

Post # 20
264 posts
Helper bee

When I read your plans to announce her big day via your DJ at the reception, I said, “Aw, that’s so nice!” out loud, to myself, haha. I think that is an incredibly sweet thing to do and your guests will love it! I love celebrations, so I think it’s incredibly lovely of you to find a way to make her bday a big deal. Honestly, when else will she have her birthday announced to a room full of well-dressed guests with a dance floor? I say go for it, and also great job at being a wonderful friend to her 🙂

Post # 21
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

Oh man! I’m in the same boat! My MOH’s (and my brother’s) birthdays are the day before my wedding. I like the idea of doing something a day or so in advance to acknowledge it, especially with how amazing she has been!

Post # 22
8962 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

MsIsopropyl:  Does she love attention? Because some people don’t and would not appreciate an announcement or singing during someone else’s wedding, especially if the wedding day wasn’t even their birthday. I would hate it. It would be a tiny tiny bit less embarassing if it was my actual birthday, but I would not at all appreciate having an announcment, singing, and blowing out candles  at someone’s wedding the day after my birthday. After I turned 21, birthdays are no big deal at all and “day after birthday” is just Thursday. (Or in her case probably Saturday, whatev) You know her, and if she likes having all eyes on her, she might think it’s sweet.

What about giving her a cake at the rehearsal dinner the night before? That would be more than enough for me if I were in her shoes.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by  Daisy_Mae.
Post # 23
15 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015

It was the birthday of one of the members of my sisters bridal party. She told the DJ ahead of time whose birthday it was and he made an announcement and dedicated a song- “birthday” by the Beatles (you know the ” say it’s your birthday” song) to him. It was sweet, not over the top, and still a dancing song for everyone to dance to!

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