Post # 1
I’ve been posting about major dress regret and guilt over it,which I think is stemming from the fact that one of my bridesmaids picked out the dress that I wound up choosing. I do like the dress, but I don’t love it.
I have, however found a dress that I LOVE and if I buy the sample, I can get it for about $500 and try to sell my original dress. The problem is, I feel extremely guilty and like I’ll be judged. Everyone was with me when I picked out my dress and I felt very pressured to make a choice that day.
So, I was thinking of telling everyone that I WON the new dress and decided to wear it and sell my original dress. I just don’t want to be judged for spending more money on a dress and I don’t want to hurt my bridesmaids feelings since she picked it out.
I know lying is never a good idea, but I just don’t know what else to do.
Post # 3
Oh that really sucks. I can imagine your heartache but if they are real friends, sit them down and explain and they will understand. No girl will understand the pressure until they do this all themselves, I can not believe the overwhelmingness (don’t know if that is a real word) and stress that has come over me because of this. And I don’t stress easily.
Choose the dress YOU love. You won’t be happy unless you do. xx Best of luck Bee.
Post # 4
Get the dress you want but don’t lie about it. It’s nobody’s business what you spend your money on and you’re allowed to change your mind! Just go for it!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Just don’t say anything. I had two dresses and I felt guilty about it ( http://www.weddingbee.com/2012/07/05/two-dress-brides-3/ ). It was basically a secret until I walked into the reception in the 2nd dress.
Post # 6
get the dress you love, you wouldnt want to live with dress regret everytime you think about your wedding. i suggest dont lie tell the truth that you fell in love with this dress. you might get a few comments like “the other one was really pretty” but its your wedding you have to do whats right for you. x x
Post # 7
Generally speaking, if you’re afraid or ashamed to tell people about something you’re going to do, then you probably shouldn’t do it.
Post # 8
IfI picked out your dress and you later told me you were not going to wear it beause you found something you like better, I would feel bad. However, it is your decision and I am sure I would get over it. If you told me you won a new one and are therefore selling the one I picked out with you to wear this new dress. I think I would be more confused. By telling this white lie you never admit to likeing the other one better and moreover, I would not understand why you need to sell Dress if dress 2 does not bring additioanl costs. So I think the lie does not help your situation and onlyp uts you in a place to craft a greater story and really why get tnagled in a lie. Just tell zour friend(s) that you like the 1st dress but found something you LOVE more. Or just say nothing and see if they notice when you put on a different dress. If you must lie, say somethign about how your Fiance saw a photo of you in the other dress or mentioned he didn”s like such a style so you decided to go for complete surprise!
Post # 9
Changing your mind is a woman’s prerogative. You don’t have to tell anyone what you spent. If they ask about your new dress, all you have to say is, “I changed my mind.”
Post # 10
If you bought the original dress do what you want. If someone else bought it, I don’t think you can lie about it and just sell it.
Post # 11
peresonally, i would just be honest. youre an adult.
but if you choose to lie, Don’t lie about “winning a dress” that sounds ridiculous.
Say you brought the dress to be altered. They messed up big time and the dress is unwearable you had to buy a cheap one off the rack.
I would not feel guilty about switching dresses. its YOUR wedding.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t lie about it, but I don’t think there’s any problem if you changed your mind. I might not say anything right away, take some time and sell your other dress, and later you can let your friends know you found something you liked more and sold your original dress.
Lying is more trouble than it’s worth–you are absolutely entitled to change your mind! Remember that while this is extremely important to you, your friends are probably not as invested in your choice are you are. I am sure they would understand.
Post # 13
I agree with the PP. Don’t lie. It’s not worth it. I think your friend would be more hurt to find out you lied to her than she would be if you changed your dress.
Post # 14
If I knew my friend was having dress regret and then out of no where she says she won a dress and is returning the other than I would have a feeling that she’s lying.
I was in a similar predicament and it was too late to return the 1st dress to the store. It would have also cost a lot of money to get it altered as well. So I sold it and told my mom I used that money to pay for the 2nd dress.
Post # 15
It’s your wedding day! And If i were your friend, and I found out that you wore a dress you didn’t like just to avoid hurting my feelings, I’d think you were crazy! You want to shine and be happy and confident right? Well so do your friends! Be un-apologetic about it! Your friends and family will stick by you! And if they don’t, then shurg and go on!
Post # 16
Just be honest. Tell them you found a dress you loved more.