Post # 1
Im a 25 year old married woman and my cousin asked me to be her guest book attendant at her wedding. She said she could only choose 6 bridesmaids but didn’t want to leave me out so she wants me to buy a dress just like the bridesmaids and stand by her guest book. I think this is kind of lame or demeaning to ask a grown woman to spend money on a dress just to stand by a guest book.. Something a sign could do. Can I tell her no?
Post # 4
@dreamer1288: You can say no. Maybe something like, “You know, I’ve thought about it, and I really appreciate that you didn’t want me to feel left out, but I’d really love to just come to the wedding as a guest and be able to focus on enjoying your special day.”
Post # 5
@dreamer1288: I honestly would explain that you would rather not do that. Bridesmaids get to decline, why shouldn’t you? And it doesn’t seem like you she finds you close enough to want you to be there for her the whole day.
Post # 6
Just tell her you’d rather appreciate attending as a guest.
Post # 7
@dreamer1288: It’s definitely ok to politely say no. Also (if you are ok with doing it but not with buying a dress) it’s to say you’re not in a position to buy a matching dress so you can’t do it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
Is this a thing?? I’ve never heard of it! I would politely decline and say you would rather enjoy the reception alongside your family and not fret over the book.
Post # 9
@FutureDrAtkins: lol I guess it is a thing!! I’m going to let her know that it’s nice of her to want me involved somehow but I’d rather have fun than buy a matching bridesmaid dress to stand next to the guest book at her reception. And she was a bridesmaid in my wedding so I’m a little hurt over it because I felt like we were closer than that but obviously we’re not.
Post # 10
I’d give her a smack. That should give her my answer.
Post # 11
Ummm I definitely wouldn’t do that.
Post # 12
I would definitely say no to her! That is such a throw-away title. I would either tell her
- I’ll just enjoy as a guest
- or offer to be a personal attendant.
Post # 13
Yeah, that’s obnoxious. I’d tell her no.
Post # 14
Yeah no thanks. Tell her you appreciate her offer but you don’t feel discluded by not doing something and you’d rather attend as a guest and just enjoy her wedding.
Post # 15
I might consider hanging out by the guest book, but I surely would NOT be doing it in an expensive bridesmaid’s dress.
Wait. Who am I kidding? I wouldn’t want to attend a guestbook no matter what my attire.
Tell her no. It’s okay.
Post # 16
Another vote for decline. Sounds incredibly lame.