(Closed) can i tell people i'm a bridesmaid?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I tell people I'm her bridesmaid?
    Yes : (40 votes)
    65 %
    No : (22 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9627 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I wouldn’t, leave it to her to tell them

    Post # 4
    Member
    2067 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I voted yes. Unless she specifically asked you not to share yet. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think it would be ok if you mention it, but maybe shoot her a text first just to be sure!  She might still be deciding the rest of the bridal party and you don’t want to make it awkward if one of the girls you’re seeing is disappointed she wasn’t asked.

    Post # 6
    Member
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wouldn’t, only because she doesn’t live there anymore, and may not have asked everyone she wants to. I would wait until she tells you everyone who is going to be asked has been asked, and that you can tell people.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would wait since it just happened. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No, not until the bride says it. She might want to personally tell people herself, especially if there’s some mutual friend who was expecting to be a bm.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2778 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wouldn’t, let her do it.

    Post # 11
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    8369 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t bring it up or just blurt it out but if someone asks directly about who the BM’s are or if you are one then I don’t think you should lie. If you lied about it that would make it seem even more suspicious to people.

    Post # 12
    Member
    9627 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    @j_jaye:  agreed,

    if you are asked, then answer but don’t volunteer the information on your own

    Post # 13
    Member
    3302 posts
    Sugar bee

    Tell if asked but leave it to the bride.

    Post # 14
    Member
    6537 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t bring it up, but if they ask I wouldn’t lie.

    Post # 15
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    7759 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Every bride is different. The only safe course is to ask the bride if it’s ok to tell.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1335 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

    i’d ask her first. Better safe than sorry.

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