- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
got it thanmks
got it thanmks
1) Nobody has to pay for your wedding but you. If someone decides to contribute it is out of the kindness of their heart, not out of obligation. Nobody owes you money so that you can get married.
2) I’m sorry you’re not in any pictures. My solution is to make sure you take one with your dad and his new wife at your wedding. After the wedding buy a print and give it to them. Then there will be a picture of the four of you on their wall. But honestly you can’t decorate a house you don’t live in.
3) Your mom left your dad. If he actually found someone new that makes him happy, than just be happy about it. And if she is wrong for him, than keep it to yourself. He is an adult and can make his own decisions.
I’m going to be brutally honest, only because I have been in your position, you need to move on and try to be happy for your dad.
My parents divorced when I was 7. When my Dad was finally ready to date, no one was good enough for him in my eyes. I hated my step mom in the beginning with a passion. Everything she did annoyed me, and I felt like I was being replaced and he didn’t care about my feelings because he chose a woman that I didn’t get along with. As much as you think you want your father to be happy, you will never be content with the woman he chooses because your still seeing him with your mother. Divorce is hard on a kid, no matter what age. Something you were used to has been changed, and it’s tough to get over it. Maybe some counselling to help talk about your problems could help? Your parents didn’t divorce all that long ago, so the wounds are still fresh. Your father moved on quickly I will admit, but he’s an adult and made the decision he felt was right for him. You need to support your father. As the children we may not accept the decisions our parents make, but we need to respect them. Maybe sit down with your Dad, one on one, and express your feelings and tell him you feel like your being pushed aside. Don’t mention the money, it is not his obligation to pay for your wedding. Just tell him how you feel about not feeling important to him anymore.
It would hurt me too if there were no pictures of me, but your father has made his decision and you have to as well. He’s not going to leave this woman because you don’t like her. So you have to learn to live with it, try to get to know her, or distance yourself.
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