(Closed) Can I throw my own baby shower?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with

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@UpstateCait:  …I am more flexible on the “mom” throwing a shower for her daughter’s wedding that some people disagree with, but a mom throwing her own baby shower is just not cool. You might as well just send people notes saying “Buy me a gift”. Sure, be involved, if it doesn’t offend the hostess, but don’t throw one for yourself. I’m sorry, but that would just not fly with anyone I know. If you’re really insistent on throwing a shower yourself, at the very least have someone ghost host so that the invitations don’t indicate you as the hostess.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t throw it myself… Enjoy the one your hostess has planned.I would be surprised if the restaurant was unable to accomodate your large party in some way.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

CaitMarae, but listen the boring babyshowers are the ones where you just sit on a couch with like just ten people playing games and i’m talking about throwing it like a party, that’s how us spanish people do with lots of family and friends.  Music, dancing and food,  is a big thing. Everyone goes is not just for women is like a big party. I’m not saying that throwing a bigger only for more  gifts but hello the more people the more stuff you get . You got to make it fun, if people think is like a get together at someones place then expect a few people, but is for your baby so you need a lot of stuff, the same reason girls have a bridal shower mostly to get gifts…but yeah definately some others do it bigger so that is not just the same old typical that some people rather have…JS

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Roimantigua:I don’t believe people have baby showers to get gifts.It is a way to celebrate the upcoming birth. Parents are supposed to provide what the baby needs.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@les105:  at the very least have someone ghost host so that the invitations don’t indicate you as the hostess…

I agree. I don’t see any reason you can’t be involved (especially if you take on responsibility), but I wouldn’t indicate yourself as the hostess. People can be so sensitive when it comes to things like this, and that may cause them not to come/get a gift (which I’m assuming is your motivation for the shower).

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is just have of what i got with about 50 people by the end of the night i had this+ what’s under the table+ everything else that didn’t fit so we brought upstairs. This was in my mom’s backyard they threw me a surprise baby shower, lots of dancing/music/food/people/gifts..it was beautiful

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@kellmerr:  I don’t believe people have baby showers to get gifts.

Really? I always thought this was the main reason people have them. They just thinly veil this motivation with the “celebration” to avoid seeming rude or improper. Otherwise, why do people even register/bring gifts/etc.? Maybe there are some brides/mothers who don’t have showers for the gifts, but IMO the vast majority do.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

sorry meant * Half*

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 totally agree with you… i don’t want to sound mean or anything i just wanted to get my point across but you said everything perfectly:)

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

MsPoodles lol i meant my last post for you, not whoever i sent it to, lol,,sorry that’s what happens when you have a baby around..lol writing too fast

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

To me a baby shower is more about the celebration and a good excuse to have a catch up with my fav girlies, the gifts dont really interest me, which is why despite my hostess suggesting I either get a registry or ask for money I have refused, i have nothing about gifts on my invites at all, if people wish to get me something, great, but I wont be asking for things. 

I really wanted to through my own shower because I have got really excited about baking and decorations, when my bff asked if she could through one for me I was thrilled that she was so thoughtful. i did design my own invites though, what do you think?

I think the girls that use it as a gift grabbing exercise are missing out on the true joy of it all.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If it is not about the gifts, then maybe the place with the booths isn’t such a bad location. If it is about the gifts, instead of throwing the shower yourself, why don’t you use the money the shower would cost you to buy the baby items you need?

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I never thought hosting baby shower and giving/receiving gifts equals gift grabbing. In my culture/circle it is huge event to have a baby shower for new mom esp. first time mom. Family & friends are eager to celebrate the upcoming arrival of new baby and who doesn’t want opportunity to give gifts for the little one :)? I agree with pp maybe you can suggest your stepmom host at your place if venue is a concern and you can’t travel far. I think it is perfectly acceptable to host your own baby shower if no one else is going to. In My Humble Opinion the reason to have family or friend host it so they are taking care of things otherwise you are responsible for throwing party making arrangements etc when you may not be physically up for it. I also don’t think it is issue having registry if that is a common practice in your circle but that said I guess most people will get what they think is cute like outfits, blankets etc.

Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@Romantigua:  Ok, well most baby showers that I have attended are what you would consider a “boring” shower. We, however, don’t think that sitting around and playing games are all that boring. It’s normal to us. You’ve said multiple times in this thread alone that having a larger shower equates to more gifts so if that’s all that’s important to you then so be it. If you ask me, it shouldn’t be all about the gifts, it should be to celebrate the new life you’re about to bring into the world. Expecting parents should be able to provide every last thing that they need to for their child. If they are unable to do so then they probably shouldn’t be having a baby to begin with but that’s an argument for a different day. It’s no one elses responsibility to provide the necessities that you require to appropriately raise your kid but by the tone of your PP’s, you seem to think it is. Obviously in your culture the things that you’re describing are fine. In American culture, which I assume the OP to be a part of, they are not. 

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@Romantigua:  Dancing? Never heard of dancing at a baby shower.

 

I would suggest that if you want the traditional baby shower (like with games and prizes and cute baby themed things), just let your stepmom know this. Say you were hoping to play games and have a pastel colored balloon fest 🙂

 

Good luck!

 

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