(Closed) Can I throw myself a bachelorette party without offending?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly I think your suggestion is a great idea!  If you talk to them as a group and make those suggestions hopefully they’d be on board.  It sounds like loads of fun and not expensive.  You seem like a very sweet bride-to-be – they’re lucky!!  And a great friend.  I would imagine they would love this idea, I know I would.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sounds fun to me.  If they can’t afford to give you either which really bites the least they could do is have a fun girl’s night with you the bride who should not be deprived of the great bride to be things like a party and shower. I don’t think anything is wrong with it at all.  I would do that with my friends with zero purpose and have several times last year and I am old. LOL   I really looked forward to my bachelorette party and if they said it would be to expensive I would probably have put something together myself as well.  It’s my wedding I am the bride and I want a darn girl party to celebrate it! LOL 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think that sounds perfectly fine!  Like you said, you’re not looking to get gifts or asking them to spend money – you basically want a fun girls night.  That’s understandable and more than reasonable!  Even if they didn’t like your original idea, they might warm up to it if you just plan it.  Plus, you mentioned that others who aren’t in the bridal party are asking… so if nothing else, you know those ladies will be interested.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think it would be offensive, if my friends could not afford it they would feel bad and be happy we could at least all get together for some kind celebration given the lack of money we all had. LOL Maybe address it as the last girl’s night before I wed or before the ring…same a bachelorette but if that will make the BM’s feel bad maybe rewording it will help.  If it were me as the Bridesmaid or Best Man I would want to at least send the invitations out of you and help do thinks at the party for you. Maybe make it less YOU for yourself and more like we are having a party to celebrate my last girls night before the ring. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@VegasSukie:  I think your idea is completely okay, and calling it a “last girls’ night out before the ring!” is a great way to word it.  You deserve to have some fun, and it is not like you are planning a weekend trip to Cabo or anything 🙂  Go for it!

Post # 12
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16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You can gather up your girls for a night out! Everyone can pay for herself — and then it’s more a girls’ night out than a responsibility for them. You definitely deserve some fun before the big day!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s totally fine as long as you don’t call it your bachelorette party 🙂

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t see how your BMs would be embarrased since they don’t seem to want to bother to throw you a bachelorette party – even a free one.

Do what you want if your sisters don’t want to help you, but I would have a talk with them about how dissapointed you are that they don’t want to throw you a party. Perhaps they were planning to throw you a surprise party but didn’t realize that you would think that nothing was planned.

If my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) didn’t want to help, then she would know how I felt about it for sure. 

Post # 16
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16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’ve seen cute things on Facebook about “My Last Fling Before the Ring!”

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