- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
Sorry for a venting post. Hoping that by posting a bit of my frustration I will feel a bit better.
I started out looking for a knee length bridesmaid dress- the proverbial dress you could wear again. As soon as I said this to one of my sister’s she started in on how everyone says this and people should realize no one is going to wear a bridesmaid dress again. She got married 5 years ago and I think a lot has changed since then, but I know better than to argue. However, she now brings this up every time the topic of a dress comes up. In a previous color scheme, I picked hot pink for the dress color. She’s told me three times that she isn’t meant to wear pink. People with brown hair and medium skin color just don’t look good in pink- her words, not mine. I agree not every shade works on every person, but her tone and delivery made me feel bad for picking the color. Upon seeing a grey/pink combo, I decided to switch colors and told her about it on the phone. She immediately found the dress I was talking about on J Crew and emailed saying it was a nice choice. I also emailed three other bridal line dresses and she replied all were ok with her. So end of story I thought.
So yesterday I called my sisters to see if they wanted to order dresses now or wait b/c they are both breastfeeding & there will probably be some body changes coming up. So when sister calls back she brings up the whole its good its not pink, but please don’t say I’ll wear the dress again spiel. She also tells me ordering dresses is going to be a hassle. I replied that I could go with a dress from a bridal line and take care of it, but it was my understanding this was the preferred dress. She then paused, said, uh, well, whatever, its not a dress I would pick out.
Seriously? I picked the least expensive dress on the website so cost wouldn’t come up. The dresses I picked from the bridal store- all also under $150 with discount, so I’m trying to stay relatively inexpensive (BTW, money is not an issue). She had her day 5 years ago and now it’s my turn. Because of the family drama with my sister’s weddings (they basically stopped speaking to one another until both got married 8 weeks apart) I’ve gone to great lengths not to ask too much of either sister to not drudge up past rifts between the two. Not to whine, but I wish she remembered everything I did for her during that time. All I want is for her to be happy and support me- something she has not done since we got engaged.
Thanks for letting me vent! I feel a bit better already.