(Closed) Can I turn down my estranged father's offer to officiate?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I let him officiate our ceremony?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    10 %
    No way : (19 votes)
    90 %
    Other (explain below please) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1270 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

    No!  you are under absolutely no obligation to have him officiate!! Don’t feel pressured.  It was rude of him to assume, if he actually did get ordained.

    Post # 4
    Member
    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    No, you are not. I would wait on responding and when you do politely tell him that you had already made other arrangements and that the money had been paid or something along those lines. 

    Just because a person is a biological contributor does not mean that you owe them specific special privileges if they have done nothing to deserve them. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No, you don’t have to accept, and I don’t see why you would if you don’t even really want him there. I would just tell him that you already have all that taken care of, but thanks for the offer.

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