Post # 1
Years ago, I wanted to do something different and asked a hairdresser to make me a blonde, like a platinum blonde. She hesitated, said my skin was too pale, talked me into red instead, which I did for a while before going back to natural medium brown.
Just a couple of years ago, I started to inquire about going blonde again. One hairdresser discouraged me, telling me she had burned her own scalp trying to do same. Another hairdresser also discouraged me and persuaded me to go with blonde highlights instead. Going blonde would not be easy, she said, the highlights would be more natural and there would not be as much contrast when the roots grow in, etc.
The highlights look good, but I wonder if any bees can tell me if these hairdressers are right or wrong. Why are they always trying to talk me out of having my hair bleached completely blonde? Is it really that difficult? I always thought there were plenty of women with medium brown hair who bleached it blonde.
Any experiences from those who have bleached their hair or who are hairdressers would be appreciated. I have even wondered if the hairdressers get more money from highlighting and is that their motivation?
Post # 2
It can wash you out if you have pale skin like me (the thread I just posted shows me as a redhead, blonde and brunette). It takes multiple appointments to go from brown to blonde. I would say it took me 5 months to go from red to blonde. Unless you are in it for the long haul the salon knows you will be disappointed at the first appointment.
If you have any warmth in your hair, which you do, it is particularly challenging to change. Most standard “bottle blondes” have been doing it for a while to get to that point.
Post # 3
Yes, it is that difficult. Unless you have naturally light hair it means constant touch ups which get expensive, fried hair, and mutiple dye jobs to get it blonde (you CANNOT do it all at once…your hair WILL fall out)….Take this from a girl who has done this before. It’s just not worth it. Try balayage or sombre (NOT ombre), it’s low maintenance and looks natural and pretty. It’s basically just darker at the roots and slowly fades into blonde at the tips.
Post # 4
Bleach is a lot of trouble, especially all over. But if you’ve already dealt with red dye, blonde isn’t going to be much different. You know about the annoyance of fading dye and roots coming in. To make it blonde will take a lot of bleach and for longer, which means way more damage. But you are right, tons of women have bleached hair!
The idea that your skin is too pale is just downright silly. There are many shades of blonde. I don’t think you should go platinum necessarily, but a natural color of blonde that matches your skin tone. The blonde that looks good in a Emma Stone isn’t the same blonde that Kim Kardashian can rock, for example. A good hairdresser will understand how to get the right blonde for your skin tone.
You have been wanting to do this for years. If you have been thinking of it for that long, it’s time!! Just find a good hairdresser. You only live once. If you want to be blonde, do it! I know how obnoxious it is to go into the salon expecting one thing and be talked out of it. Don’t allow them to do that this time. And make sure you like the stylist because you will be spending a TON of time with them.
Good luck, future blondie! 🙂
Post # 5
Carolsays: Going blonde is going to be a process if you want to minimize damage to your hair. I have had my hair every color of the rainbow but I love myself as a blonde the most so I always go back. I’ll attach some pictures of my most recent journey to blonde to show you how it is done gradually. There are 4-7 weeks between pictures here 🙂
Top left: before, top right: 1st set of highlight, bottom left: second set of highlights, bottom right: current (done last Wednesday).
My stylist does back to back slices with my foils and ALWAYS uses Olaplex when she bleaches my hair and it has made all the difference in the world for my hair. It does not feel dry or crunchy at all. I like that she leaves a little bit of “root” on my hair so my new growth isn’t as severe a contrast like it would be if she just bleached my whole head.
Post # 6
My hair is mousy brown and I bleach it blonde, just short of platinum. It is an incredible amount of upkeep and committment. I only do it because I absolutely trust my hairdresser who is a whiz with colours. My skin is fair.
Every 4 weeks without fail I have to book in for regrowth bleach and an all-over toner and protein mask. In Aus, this is about $170 and takes 3 hours. I can’t get lazy and leave it for 5 weeks or I look like a reverse skunk. Also towards the 4th week the toner starts to wear off and it gets a tinge of yellow so you need to invest in a good blonde-support shampoo.
I can’t just let it grow out or dye it mousy brown again as the hair is a lot weaker due to the bleach. When I eventually have to ease it back to it’s natural colour it will take about 6-12 months of having foils to blend the regrowth rather than an all-over bleach.
If you do go blonde, I strongly recommend your stylist uses a product called CurePlex Bond Sustainer (or similar) which has made a big difference in the condition of my hair since I started using it. She puts it on as a mask after the bleach and it helps reduce the brittleness which is inevitable when using bleach. You then get a take-home bottle to use as your conditioner every 2nd wash. It costs about $50 for the treatment and the take-home. I was getting a lot of hair breakage/split ends but when I started using the CurePlex it noticably reduced this problem.
I love being blonde! But it’s a big committment so be sure that you want to. Have you gone to a wig place and tried on different blonde wigs to pick your colour?
Post # 7
there’s a website Taaz.com where you can upload a pic and do a virtual makeover, put on some blonde hair and see for yourself
Post # 8
s2bmrscook: You are so gorgeous! Just needed to say that!
Post # 9
Carolsays: There’s no reason that you can’t be a blonde, but depending on your skin undertones and how much money/time you have for maintenance, there may be some types of blonde that aren’t the best idea for you. My sister and I both have pale skin and naturally brown hair (mine is light ash brown). While my hair’s tone is pretty neutral, my skin has warm undertones and I look better with warmer hair colors. My sister has cool undertones. She is currently blonde and I have been blonde in the past.
When I transitioned to blonde I did it from a very dark auburn (3RB/4RB). Because my hair is thin we were especially concerned about damage so we chose to use a combination of “normal” highlights and balayage to transition my hair to blonde over the course of about a year. I continued to maintain the color largely through highlighting and balayage because I didn’t want to have to be in the salon every 3-4 weeks for my roots. I also had to keep to shades of darker blonde that had warmth to them. I had a very limited range of shades that worked well. (This is why I eventually left blonde behind and went back to red and brunette.)
Because my sister has thicker and healthier hair, she bleached hers. Still, she ended up cutting off about five inches of her hair (granted, she did have very long hair at the time) because of damage, and she has to be absolutely vigilant about her roots–she is in the salon every month, whereas when I had blonde hair I usually had to touch my color up every 6-8 weeks. She can also work with a much wider variety of blonde shades (including her current platinum) than I could because of her skin undertones.
Post # 10
Olivepepper: Aww thank you!! *blush*
Post # 11
s2bmrscook: More than welcome, I only speak the truth!
Post # 12
Carolsays: I jsut went through this process. I had black hair, and instead of bleaching and killing all my hair, we did highlights every other week for 4 months, to gradually go fully blonde balayage. It took a TON of time and care, and I totally killed my long, thick, silky dark hair. I am currently in the process of going back dark and repairing all the damage lol.
Post # 13
steph91: How do you go back?
Post # 14
Going blonde will cause some damage to your hair, depending on how dark your brown is will determine the process for you. It’s pretty common for a hairdresser to do it in stages by gradually dyeing your hair. The nice part about that is, you’re not going for it all at once so if you do find a color along the way that’s lighter that you like you can stop going lighter before you’ve gone all the way and potentially damaged your hair. There are products that can take you back to your original color but a lot of ladies will probably tell you that it’s never exactly the same.
Post # 15
Carolsays: Welllllll lol… I’m getting it died gradually darker every 3 weeks, the color fades out each shampoo and the blonde peeks through, so they are anticipating 3-4 months to build the color back up to a rich dark shade that wont fade and show the blonde through it. My hair never gets dirty, so I only wash my hair once a week and then just throw it in a bun so it wont get wet when I shower every day, and I use a keratin mask treatment once a week to help with damage repair. I don’t own a blow dryer, and I use no heat on it to help get it back to what it was.
For someone like me, I literally take so much pride in my hair, it was so thick, silky and long (it still is super long now), people used to touch my hair because they didnt believe I had no extensions in lol, and dying it blonde was something I’ve always wanted, but the damage was jsut too much for me. It killed me to see how dry and straw-like my hair was. I wish I never did it, but I loved how I looked blonde lol 🙁 If I could have healthy blonde hair I would in a heart beat!!