(Closed) Can I un-invite someone?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4432 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Short answer: NO!


But, you don’t have to pay attention to them as much, and you’ll be busy anyways!



Wait,. I re-read your post….you didn’t send invites yet? Tell them situation has changed, and you wish you could invite EVERYONE..but just not happening.

Post # 4
4039 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you haven’t sent her a Save the Date or an invitation, I think you are fine to not invite her. It doesn’t sound like she would follow up and ask about it (if you haven’t talked in 6 months)

Post # 5
8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if you haven’t sent her a STD or invitation, then she is not invited.

don’t worry about it if you said this to her a year and half before your wedding.

if she brings it up, just say you had to limit your guest list.

Post # 6
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Same as PP’s, just don’t invite her now. If she asks just say logistics couldn’t provide for you to invite all the people you wish you could have.

Im sure she won’t be horrified or anything, it doesn’t sound like she is pushing it or like she even really “expects” an invite 🙂


Post # 7
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you haven’t sent a STD or invitation, then you are not obligated, even though it is rude to go back on your word like that.  You do, of course, need to be more careful in the future with who’s around when you’re talking about your wedding and giving out verbal invitations!

Post # 9
492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

yea, I agree with the PP’s. no need to worrk about it.

Post # 10
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree w pp too! if nothing was sent you have nothing to worry about. 

Post # 11
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was unbridesmaided once. The friend and I had had a falling out anyway, and she decided she wanted to keep it really small with just family. I was fine with it.. I actually felt more awkward thinking I had to go when our relationship had changed.

Maybe this guest will be relieved.. you never know.

Post # 12
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Do you think she remembers? Honestly that was before you were in the thick of wedding planning (I assume) so maybe she didn’t even take it that seriously.

I understand what you mean though. I am having a small wedding so only my very close friends are coming and a lot of my other friends were not invited. I thought about asking a couple of them, but then I felt like I’d have to ask the others that were just as close.

Honestly I would just not invite her. I don’t think a verbal invitation months prior is really that official.

Post # 13
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@adoc86:  +1, this. If you haven’t sent an invitation or save the date (I am not calling it an STD, ugh) then I think you are fine.

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