Post # 1
We sent out our invites Agust 1st, with an RSVP date of today… Sept 10th. I need my final head count by the beginning of October, so I gave myself a few weeks to track down those forgettful, stagglers…
Vent #1: Over HALF the guests have not RSVPed. Half! Thats 60+ invitations. Now, I know that a decent amount of invitations were lost, including my own parents. And I’m doing an email RSVP, so its a little more work. But really, come on people!
Vent #2: Guests are NOT visiting the website to review RSVP information. Not all have to, and I don’t really expect it, but on the site I have very tastefully stated that we cannot accomodate extra guests. Which brings me to #3…
Vent #3: So so so so so many guests are RSVPing for multiple people when the invitation was addressed to them, and them alone. No “& Guest” was added to these people’s invitations. Why do people automatically assume its ok to bring a date? Fiance and I don’t want people we don’t know at our wedding. Thats reasonable, right? So far everyone seems to be understanding when I explain that we didn’t budget for extra guests, and that if I had room, I’d let them know, but it irks me that these people assume that we can afford to feed the stranger (to us) that they’re bringing along.
Ok, I feel better now. Anyone else experiencing similar things?
Post # 3
If someone is single, then I thought it was assumed that you could bring a guest.
That is frustrating, you can hand deliver it and people can’t seem to give back an RSVP. Perhaps they don’t want to tell you no?
Hopefully things will turn around, stay strong!
Post # 4
We sent our invites in the middle of July with an RSVP date of yesterday. Out of 87 invites mailed, we didn’t have about 15 yesterday. That’s definitely not as bad as yours but it’s very annoying having to hound people to send them in. They had over a month to write their name and check yes or no! I’m still missing an RSVP from my cousins. Family can’t even send them in on time?
Luckilly we only had one plus one guest issue. We gave all of your bridal party and friends who have had a SO for a long period of time a plus one. One friend’s SO was on the invite list and then they broke up so she was then off the list. He text me last week that him and his SO (same girl, they apparenly got back together) would be coming to the wedding. Too bad we only invited him…. I freaked out and almost came to Wedding Bee for advice but I figured out a way to nicely say that we didn’t have room for her. Luckilly he was really understanding!
Also, my FMIL’s cousin RSVPed no and said she wasn’t coming unless her daughter and her daughter’s boyfriend were invited. Haha, what??
I hope people start sending their RSVPs in. Is there someone in your bridal party who will take on the assignment of calling everyone? That way you don’t have to deal with it. :] I’m so sorry that everyone is inviting a plus one! I’ve never understood how people assume they can add on people. Do they not understand how much weddings cost?
Post # 5
I’m getting the “do I need to mail it back?” And I’m thinking “It’s pre-stamped, you go to your mailbox daily, stick it in there!!”